I ask because I see a lot of posts here about how the Borg discourages marriage. My experience is quite the opposite. Young people were pressured into getting married the minute someone from the cong. (more than likely an elder or gossiping “sister”) saw two members of the opposite alone in public together. Those who were in their late teens and early 20’s were in a hurry to marry. My guess is because of the strict rules about sex so we horny young folk wanted to marry to avoid trouble. Add to this, dates, etc had to be chaperoned. How are you supposed to have intimate conversations about your lives with others hanging around all the time?? Of course this all was a recipe for disastrous marriages. When I was dating this one guy, I was too young to be dating someone 12 years my senior. Despite concerns from some members of the congregations, elders kept pressuring us into setting a date because we don’t want to look bad. We only dated for a year before we got married.
There were a lot of concerns about the guy I married, but no on bothered to pull me aside and tell me about them. I didn’t find out about this “talk” until after we were married.
You would think for a decision so permanent according to the Borg. they wouldn’t pressure a 19/20 year old into marriage.
Thoughts? How was marriage viewed in your congregation?