I rekon in many ways 'mutuals' would have an easier transition when they work around their children after the split. I even hear of some who meet up with new partners for Christmas etc so the kids can see mum and dad with newbies!
Problems with exJWs are unavoidable if one is a non or even worse an exJW (as am I in case anyone still was unsure) because elders control communications and also manipulate events as best they can to encourage children to come along.
It so happens none of mine are JW but the scars from both sides are deep and filled with confusions and lack of communications over long time frames. Such realities precipitate unhappiness or at least derail it until each accepts such as a routine they find impossible to renegotiate = which reminds me of laylas comment about the 45 yr old homeless woman.
I dont think the WT will ever appreciate the lasting damage they do to many lives! My personal experience has few memories of happiness and none spring to attention in my heart. I am in a more stable position than many and this tells me there are many who have been ruined by WT dogma and tactical manipulation of peoples lives under pain of everlasting rejection by their claimed unique divine administration.