I had to share this with all of you. I hope it gives you encouragement to continue to try help your loved ones out.
I'll call her Lisa. Lisa and I met when we started high school, we were both JWs at the time so we became instant friends. Lisa was in a different congregation and it took us a few days to realize that we were both JWs. We even got babtized on the same day.
She was df'ed in her early 20s and I had relocated by then and we lost contact. I looked her up on Facebook a little while ago. She had since been reinstated I told her I no longer believe that JWs have the truth and thought she would stop e-mailing me. Instead she started asking questions. I got a phone call from her saying that she's out. It's been about three months, in this time she has read C of C and many internet articles. She is very inteligent and was always very curious. She was very cautious at first but the house of cards the WBTS built fell very quickly for her.
I think in this case what made it easier for her to get out so quickly was that she had an awful JC did everything the elders wanted her to do and they df'ed her anyway. Her father had doubts that he expressed when she was younger but when the elders could not answer him he was told to stop asking those questions or he woulld be df'ed. Her father has since passed away and she truely believes that he died knowing that it wasn't the truth but decided not to rock the boat. Her family totaly cut her off when she was df'ed and she still suffers from their rejection today. She says that she knows they'll once again cut her off but this time she will have no guilt attached because she would have left with a clean conscience, and that she was use to not having them in her life anyway.
I cannot beleive that I helped someone out.