How do you leave?

by helenhall 32 Replies latest jw experiences

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  Sirona

  Leaving isn't easy.

  What I think is important to remember though is that although you lose the social life of the hall, you didn't really have deep friendships there anyway. (at least I didn't...and the one person I was friends with kept in touch with me even when I faded).

  You will certainly miss the hall and everything it entails, including the social contact. However it is possible to rebuild your life and it need not take that long.

  I was married when I left and my husband left me not long after. I found myself without the JWs and without a husband! Overall it has shaped me into who I am today.

  I'd much, much rather be away from that cult than be in it. It is a cult...there is lots of information which shows exactly how they use the tactics and control methods. Free yourself while you are still young!

  Sirona
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  chicken little

  Hello Helen,

  I really could feel empathy with you when I read how you feel at the moment. I stopped attending meetings nearly one year ago after attending from the age of 3...44 years in all. I have had the same feelings of guilt and not knowing where I am with myself. In the last year I have met some wonderful people. I just be myself I dont have to preach to them or expect anything from them other than that we can be friends. I have got involved with a couple of local charities and have seen things that leave me astonished. I have made friends with an elderly woman who uses all her money and time on helping very poor people in rumania. I can honestly say that my husband and I and our children have never been happier than we are now.

  Still it has taken a year of turmoil emotionally to come this far. Dont give up, dont go back, dont regret either. I am what I am because of the time as a jw, so I accept that. But now I am moving on and boy am I happy I am.

  Read a lot...go to womens clubs...invite a neighbour over for coffee. If you are disappointed in someone, try again. Join a fitness club, meet friends on the net.

  Watch the movie then ask your friend if she wants to go away for a weekend...do it! You will have great fun and you will open up to each other.

  I wish you all the best and much joy in your life

  Chicken Little
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  Satanus

  50 Ways To Leave Your Religion
  
  The problem is all inside your head
  She said to me
  The answer is easy if you
  Take it logically
  I?d like to help you in your struggle
  To be free
  There must be fifty ways
  To leave your religion
  
  She said it?s really not my habit
  To intrude
  Furthermore, I hope my meaning
  Won?t be lost or misconstrued
  But I?ll repeat myself
  At the risk of being crude
  There must be fifty ways
  To leave your religion
  Fifty ways to leave your relgion
  
  CHORUS:
  You just slip out the back, Jack
  Make a new plan, Stan
  You don?t need to be coy, Roy
  Just get yourself free
  Hop on the bus, Gus
  You don?t need to discuss much
  Just drop off the key, Lee
  And get yourself free
  
  She said it grieves me so
  To see you in such pain
  I wish there was something I could do
  To make you smile again
  I said I appreciate that
  And would you please explain
  About the fifty ways
  
  She said why don?t we both
  Just sleep on it tonight
  And I believe in the morning
  You?ll begin to see the light
  And then she kissed me
  And I realized she probably was right
  There must be fifty ways
  To leave your religion
  Fifty ways to leave your religion
  --
  S