by loosie 38 Replies latest jw experiences
Ok you wonderful people have inspired me. I am going to write a letter to the principle and cc: the school counselor and psychologist. I have the week of spring break to write it.
When I finish I will post it here for review. Because sometimes when I write a letter I get a little snippy. I'm sure you guys can make sure my letter is totally politically correct.
Did I mention I love you guys?
Let me just say that I was hadly picked on- jesus what hoprrible school did you all go to....
Or maybe I just knew my place and the people who were bullies or gave me hell, I just forgot about it and compartmentalized it and thats the reason why I cry into my pillow at night I don't know.. you know the bullies or the kids that are straight up jackasses and you avoid them and they avoid you; to me, bullies tend to gravitate around each other and one of them becomes Head Bully and all the other become like Bully concubines who are still jackasses but know whose head-asshole, y'know?
But what to do about a bully? It's difficult you know and there isn't an easy answer. Fighting back is the best answer in most situations and I will always tell a person to defend themselves because once a person becomes the victim, they will be the victim tomorrow.. and the next day. getting your ass kicked sucks, but feeling like a weakling whose afraid of the asswhoping sucks way more. Been there done that, don't ever wanna feel like that again.
But we also have to give these kids a sense-of-self and help them to learn how to say "Fuck you and you and fuck you too.. you're cool, but you? Fuck you as well" because there are ALWAYS going to be bullies and if they cannot figgure it out now. They might not be able to figure it out on the workplace where people may not hit or throw rocks but are just as douchebaggy to find other ways of hurting you. Or they could end up being bullied by a spouse! So they have to find a way to deal with it on their own without moms and dad, but moms and dad need to be aware of the issues (more when they are young, imo) and help their kids to know how to defend themselves.
And also to recognize that your darling little angel who you love and who farts skittles and rainbows may be a bully because some people don't wanna believe that their children can do any wrong.
your darling little angel who you love and who farts skittles and rainbows
I am not disillusioned as to my little darling. I know she has faults andI get on her about those. But verbal abuse shouldn't be tolerated.
your darling little angel who you love and who farts skittles and rainbows
sounds like bully talk to me
I got my ass suspended once for kicking a bully's ass. Sucked. I was just defending myself. If they wont let you fight to protect yourself, then the least they could do is be responsible for your protection against asswipes.
Yeah Kansas has a zero tolerance policy. both kids get suspended if they are caught fighting. So I guess they expect you to lie there and get your ass whipped utnil help arrives. I think the person that made up that rule ought to lay there while getting his assed kicked w/o fighting back, until help arrives.
Loosie, lol its a dispicable rule.
it doesnt matter if you lay there or not you are still invovled in the 'fight' so you still get suspended.
My bully laid there and got his ass whooped too. we were still both suspended.
I sent the Oklahoma Board of Education an email, and told them that their Safe Kids website sucked. All of the links were bad. They sent me an email today, and they are all fixed.
http://www.sde.state.ok.us/pro/safecall.html On this website, click=
National Youth Violence Prevention Resource Center
and I found this== http://www.eyesonbullying.org/pdfs/toolkit.pdf Alot of wonderful info. Page 15 starts some good helpful advice.
Forscher,
We agree on this one! My son had someone picking on him at school. My husband told him to hit him in the nose HARD. My son was saying "but I'll get in trouble". Hubby told son to let him worry about that.
A kid should NEVER get in trouble for defending himself.
I had a bully threatening me once in the 7th grade. I threatened to kick her ass in front of God and everybody. We never became friends to this day.....but she left me alone.
A well-placed can of whoop ass can do wonders.
Journal of School Health. Special Legal Issue Feb. 08 The text below was found on page 50 of the PDF file.
http://www.ashaweb.org/pdfs/josh782.pdf
State-Based Protections.
SHPPS 2006 found that
nearly all states, districts, and schools have policies
prohibiting weapon possession or use by students,
many of which apply also to off-campus, schoolsponsored
events.
548 Most districts and schools also
prohibit physical fighting, gang activities, and harassment
of other students. Many states have passed laws
to specifically deter bullying in schools.
549 To date, 24
states have anti-bullying statutes, and 3 states have
created anti-bullying regulations.
550 These statutes
typically address what constitutes ‘‘bullying,’’ its reporting,
and consequences to students.
551 Some states
define the term ‘‘bullying’’ broadly, some are more
specific, and some leave the definition to local school
districts. For example, New Hampshire’s law merely
states that each local school board ‘‘shall adopt a pupil
safety and violence prevention policywhich addresses
pupil harassment, also known as ‘bullying’
. . . ’’ 552
Rhode Island’s law is more specific: ‘‘[h]arassment,
intimidation or bullyingmeans an intentional written,
verbal or physical act or threat of a physical act that,
under the totality of circumstances: (i) a reasonable
person should know will have the effect of: physically
harming a student, damaging a student’s property,
placing a student in reasonable fear of harm to his or
her person, or placing a student in reasonable fear of
damage to his or her property; or (ii) is sufficiently
severe, persistent or pervasive that it creates an intimidating,
threatening or abusive educational environment
for a student.’’
553 Most state anti-bullying laws
and policies address an intention to harm, repetition of
behavior, and power imbalance (eg, intimidation),
although no state has included all three definition elements.
554
Although there is no uniformity among state
anti-bullying laws, each state does require or encourage
school districts to adopt anti-bullying policies, and
most recommend that witnessed accounts of bullying
behavior be reported to a school administrator.
555
States may require or encourage school personnel
to report bullying
556 or require local school authorities
to develop a system in which students can anonymously
report incidents of bullying.
557 Most states
direct local school authorities to determine the consequences
of bullying.
558 For example, Connecticut’s
anti-bullying law requires local school authorities to
develop an anti-bullying policy that, among other
things, requires notifying the parents (or guardians)
of the bully and the target of the bullying.
559 The
Howard County School Board in Maryland recently
created an Anti-Bullying Task Force that offers training
to nurses, counselors, and others in schools on how to
address bullying issues.
