How do you deal with co-workers?

by anewme 29 Replies latest jw friends

  • anewme

    These are much younger girls and it is a small sales floor. It is difficult to avoid them.
    For the most part I have liked them. But right now they are all being very snotty to each other.

    Yesterday I argued with the assistant manager (who is in her mid twenties and I am actually too old to be her mother.
    She uses terms like "always" and "never" quite often and accuses us of misbehavior and mistakes constantly.

    She also addresses me as "Hon" which is insulting coming from her. People only call children or the very elderly "hon".

    She accused me out loud in front of others of never doing this and always doing that.

    Tired of her aristocratic ways, I spoke out that she is incorrect.

    She cried "Why do you disrespect me and always argue with everything I say?"

    Me: I dont disrespect you! But you use the terms "always" and "never" too much when referring to my work performance. It is untrue that I NEVER do this or ALWAYS do that and I wont stand and allow you to
    tell all my co-workers an untruth about me!

    And another thing. Dont call me "hon", I hate it. I am not your child. My name is _____________!

    This is all on the sales floor when the customers are not there.

    Yesterday was cruddy.

    I went home and cried.

    I am having no fun working in the world. I am too sensitive and get my feelings hurt easily.

    If I just do the pearl thing and take it I am accused of not dealing with reality and being a pollyanna.

    If I stand up for myself I am accused of disrespecting someone.

    Well, I get another day off tomorrow to cool off and rest.

    I really want to be on good terms with my co-workers and have good times.

    Sometimes there just isnt any way to make people like you if they just dont want to.

  • anewme

    Thank you Mrs. Jones, you have always been kind to me.
    I appreciate it.

  • anewme

    Pioneer Spit, you are sooooo right!!!

    I need to practice that........."WHATEVER!"

    I need to practice shrugging off the grouchy remarks of others.

    I usually have been able to, but right now I am very sensitive
    to them.

    I do believe much of the problems between people are a failure
    to communicate well and a failure to show fellow feeling.

    Abuse just keeps going round and round until someone says STOP!

  • Layla33

    I could write a book on this topic alone, but I learned my lesson early because I was 16 and learned the rules hard and fast.

    Here's a few rules for coworkers and work in general that I live by:

    1) Always be on time. To be early is to be on time.

    2) Mind your business, don't get involved in gossip.

    3) Trust no one because at work, anyone could become your rival and backstabber.

    4) Be nice and respectful to all, but keep your personal business to yourself and don't get drawn in to other's personal business. Try not to sermonize or give unsoliciated advice. Avoid the happy hours and office parties - if you go don't stay over 30 minutes.

    5) Do you very best, make yourself an asset to the company you are working.

    6) Avoid being a complainer.

    7) You are not there to make friends, you are there to do a job. Occasionally you may make a friend, but keep the overall purpose in mind at all times.

  • anewme

    Well thank you JWD for allowing me to vent.

    I actually feel better. And thanks for the advice to shrug it off....WHATEVA!

    This Friday I have to work with the young assistant manager all by myself and close the store...YIKES!!!

    Woe is me.

    I cant even cry out to you know you any longer for help!!!!! JWs fixed that!

    Anyway, gotta go. Thank you all.

  • lisavegas420

    Yeah...the whatever along with some eyerolling works great. Sometimes, with the younger ones, you just have to raise your eyebrows..and say "what the hell are you talking about".

    but...if you are going home and crying...and are spending half of your evening miserable, it's time to move on. Life's way too short for that nonsense.

    I try to make people laugh. It's hard to stay upset if you're laughing. Oh and chocolate works nicely too.


  • real one
    real one

    wow you mean you werent around any witnesses that acted like that?

  • real one
    real one

    oh sorry you already answered that

  • funkyderek


    A new employee started in my company recently. He asked me what the people were like here.

    "What were the people like in your last job?" I asked him.

    "Oh terrible," he replied. "There was constant gossip and backbiting, everyone was only looking after number one."

    "You'll find they're pretty much the same here," I informed him.

    Another employee joined the company a few days later and asked the same question. I again asked what the people were like in his last job.

    "They were great", he answered. "Everyone was friendly and helpful, and there was a real sense of camaraderie".

    My reply: "You'll find they're pretty much the same here."


  • LouBelle

    Well I've always worked in the ""worldly"" environment - even when I was a JW there was no way I was going to put myself in that situation as one wouldn't be able to stand up as it were if you needed too.

    We have petty gossipers here too - all blabbing much better about this or that - if it's trivial stuff it doesn't bother me, but when people mak it personal or malicious I do speak up.

    Sometimes you just got to bite back.

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