do you have real evidence or could it be your FIL is paranoid?
The evidence we have is not enough for the sheriff's dept. to open a true investigation. She rarely cooks for him. She eats over the sink only foods that she cooks in small amounts for herself. When she cooks for him, he vomits violently and is so nauseated that he can barely lift his head. She makes him coffee every morning and some days he finds a strange substance at the bottom of the cup. On those days he gets violently ill. When my wife and I and our kids have eaten what she makes for him we all get sick, but not to the degree that he does.
Here is a bit of background on her. She came to this country illegally with her husband from Mexico, via Texas. They had kids in the early 1970's so they were allowed work permits. They learned the truth according to the wt and were baptized. He abused her and cheated on her and wound up impregnating another sister in their cong in Northern California. She begged him to stay with her but he told her that he did not love her anymore and poof, he was gone.
She was alone raising two girls and working all the while verbally and physically abusing them both. Forcing them to go to meetings, but not really teaching them anything. They grew up to resent her over time. They lived in squalor, with little to eat, on welfare, her working, and roaches covering most of their little apartment. She also sent money back to her family in Mexico.
Well, she was working at a quick-build and saw a brother with a very large luxury car pull up. This tall and lean brother had the look of money. She made inquiries about him and she learned that he had been married before, was divorced but marriage material. She also learned that many sisters had their eye on him. He is the man who would later become my father in law via his daughter.
Well, he was working very hard and this gold digger would put herself in front of him at every opportunity. Flashing her toothy grin when his eye caught her. She forced a friend to introduce them and so began their relationship. It was honey this, honey that, kissy kissy, Oh how I love you! You know how it is when men and women get at each other......LOL
Well, he went to visit her and noticed how she kept house like a pig in a poke and saw how her lack of food and money made her kids suffer, so he bought them clothes and food and helped her de-bug the house. Her smile was enchanting and he fell deeply in love with her. About a year went by and they were married. He was the happiest man alive, because he felt that God had given him a chance at being happy again. Too bad He had not........
During the first week their was BLISS. Then she cooled off. When he asked what bothered her she auid that she didn't really like to kiss or make love. One month later to the day she told him that she never loved him. She saw him and his wealth and had decided to grab him to have a good father for her kids, and for his means for supporting her. He told her that a good father is also a good husband. But she told him that no, she had no feelings for him other than what she feels for any brother. Of course he was crushed. But, being a person who believes in doing good, he was determined to win her over with kindness and tenderness. Not gonna happen. She is a completely mercenary personality. If there is no financial gain for her she won't play. Both of her kids left the wt and she nags teh one with kids about the troof every chance she gets. The other girl studies now and then.....
Fastforward 20 years. It is 2005 and he begins to feel ill after he eats her food and certain days when he drinks her coffee. She confides to my wife that she is convinced that he is a drug addict and an apostate, because he is too sick to go to work or to meeting and service. He has been disabled for years after suffering several heart attacks "AT WORK!!" Hello! She also says that she is thinking of contacting Dorothea Puente and asking her for her recipe book. (Dorothea Puente was the notorious F Street murderess of Sacramento, CA who poisoned her tenants for their social Security checks.)
Last year my wife was going through some drawers helping her dad to organize a few things when she found a box with photos of her ex and love letters she writes to him. Poems and everything. My wife showed dad and now he knows that she never got over the ex. She still pines after a man that abused her and her kids, who cheated on her and humiliated her. She is retarded.
She mentions several times that she is tired of him always being sick and for him to hurry up and die already. (How loving for a pioneer to speak like this....) She ehars him struggling for air at times and grabbing his chest and she walks passed him with not so much as a glance toward him. Her main concern is that she keeps all of her paycheck in her own account so he must pay all the bills with his pension money. She is always inquiring about his retirement account and to make sure he knows that she is getting it when he dies. Just last month she asked him if he had all of his funeral arrangements in order. He asked her why she needed to know......He is going to die one day and everything will be hers, what is the rush?
We called the Sheriff and told them this, and they said they could only act after the fact. My next call is to Adult Protective Services to begin a paper trail of abuse and neglect.