if a married elder "came on " to a worldly lady

by looloo 13 Replies latest watchtower scandals

  • Snoozy
    Snoozy

    OK..another story. My hubby's JW mom had a good friend..a lady that she had studied with that later became a witness.Well they became very close friends. The ladies husband was an unbeliever but didn't oppose her.

    Well they started hanging out together..going to assemblies together and whatever.Eventually the husband started coming along.They had a cabin on the river and the two couples would go there together and fish..boating..they had a good time together.
    As it would be predicted..both husbands started coming to the hall.

    Well further down the line apparently he met someone else..at the hall...he told his wife he wanted a divorce. Now this meant immediate disfellowshipping for both him and the other witness lady.

    It broke this lady friends heart. They seemed like such a nice couple..they got along well .We were all shocked!
    Next thing I know is that both the disfellowshipped and by this time divorced and remarried HIS ex-witness friend, start trying to get reinstated..they succeed..Then they preceed to go to the same KH his x wife and daughter go to.

    So she has to be reminded constantly of him and what he did to her and their daughter.

    Time moves on again..I find out she has terminal cancer..she only had a year or so to live. She tried every option she could but it finally overcomes her..It was so sad.Why her..the sweetest of the bunch with such a great sense of humor and so caring....why not him?

    His daugher needing someone, finally reconciled with her dad after her mother's death.She too stayed in the JW religion and married a witness.

    I really like both of them..but what he did was so cruel..I sometimes wonder what happened to him.......
    According to the JW teachings..he and his new wife will be in the "New system"..GRRRRRRRRRR. OR WILL HE?

    Snoozy..with yet another "True life story". (Taken from her years in the Jehovah's Witness religion)

  • sammielee24
    sammielee24
    what would happen ? if he was really sorry about it would he get a telling off by his fellow elders or what

    Well..first off - how are they going to know he 'came on' to anyone unless he confesses? Worldly people are nothing but loose, immoral, wine swigging, drug taking sex fiends so if he confessed to his fellow elders they would understand that it was Satans little worldly helpers that were sent to entice him into their sordid world. He did not succumb so they would say 'Jehovah's spirit is around him'. He confesses and feels oh so sorry about his weakness so all they would do is counsel him to stay away from worldly women. They would just slap his wrist and nod in understanding. His best bet would be to say nothing and go about his own business. sammieswife.

  • uninformed
    uninformed

    If he is caught or confesses an adulterous affair within 3 years of it taking place, he would be at least removed and probably reproved or DF'd.

    However, if his 'conscience' lets him slide for a couple more years, it is likely, especially if he is a 'good buddy' with the other elders (that HE would likely pick to hear his confession), then he may get out of it without either removal or judicial action.

    I have known of at least two of these cases.

    Brant

  • looloo
    looloo

    he told the worldly lady that rejected him not to tell anyone , and she didnt for a while but then she heard he was giving advice to single sisters about reporting married brothers that come on to them, so she felt pissed off at the hypocrisy of it and went to see an elder , she asked for his wife and kids not to be told as she was friends with his kids (he was 25 years older than her ) the outcome was , she lost her freinds and congregation gossip going round was they had been "at it for years" dont know if anything happened to him but i doubt it as he was very highley thought of and very "strong" in the truth, she wishes he had never said anything to her about his feelings for her , as it ruined everything , i also beleive she had a reputation as a trouble causer even though she did nothing !!!!

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