Looking for some friends

by nishayd 16 Replies latest jw experiences

  • nishayd

    I am looking for some people to talk to. I have no friends and I do know why. People are very judgmental about the way I look. I do know I'm not the greatest person to look at, but what makes me upset is people go out of their way to make me feel uncomfortable about it. So I was hoping to find some comfort and support from the Jehovah's Witnesses. I know that your religion is not judgmental towards people and this is the only religion I know to turn to for some help. I'm not looking for charity or for people to feel sorry for me. I just want to find some people I can talk to and become goods friends with. So please, if you would like, can you post a message for me just letting me know that I can find some comfort from anyone in here. I appreciate it.

    Thanks a lot,

  • Seeker


    First of all, welcome! I think you will find that there will be many people here who will be welcoming and accepting. Ignore the fights that sometimes go on, and enjoy the folks who are here to socialize and help each other.

    However, if you are serious about wanting to join Jehovah's Witnesses, you should know that you will have a hard time doing that online. The Watchtower Society discourages Witnesses from associating online, and so many Witnesses won't come to places like this. Obviously, you are at such a site, and there are people here, so cleary not everyone listens to the Watchtower Society. But that explains why you will see many opposers here. In any case, all are welcome here, and that includes you.

  • larc


    Welcome to our humble abode. Many here used to be Witnesses. However, many left because we found the same kind of judgementalism you mentioned. If you meet the Witnesses in person, they will be nice to you. If you go to their meetings they will "love bomb" you. Once you join them, life can get difficult.

    Why don't you tell us a little about yourself. Perhaps we can give some ideas on how to develope friendships. Are you a teenager? If you are you might be the target of a bunch of bullys. Sometimes this happens. Please tell us more.

  • expatbrit

    Hi Vernisha:

    Welcome to the discussion board. As others have said, most of the people you will meet here are former members of the Jehovah's Witnesses. One of the main reasons a lot of us left is because of the "conditional" friendship we saw as Jehovah's Witnesses. That is, a form of friendship based merely on your agreement with their accepted religious doctrines, rather than a real friendship based on who you are.

    I'll not go so far as to say that you shouldn't check out the Witnesses. That is your decision to make. My advice though is to research very, very carefully before making a commitment you may regret in future. Changing or adopting a religion, particularly an intense religion such as the Jehovah's Witnesses, is a fundamental, life-changing decision, not to be rushed into.

    So, having said that, please feel welcome to stick around, ask questions and join in our laughter (and sometimes shouting, but that's life!). I have found, and I'm sure you will too, that there are many fine people here who make excellent friends.


  • Ranchette

    Hello Vernisha and welcome to the board!

    I believe you can make friends here.
    Besides making friends you can learn alot about JW's, human nature, and many other things.
    Hope you enjoy it here.
    LOL,I think I'm adicted to this place.


  • nishayd

    Hello everyone, and thanks for replying so quickly to my message. Well I'm 20 years old and right now I'm seeking work, but until I find it I am in school so I won't be sitting around the house doing nothing. Some of the things I love to do is write peotry, and read all kinds of books, and watching tv. The activities I used to love to do outside the house was going to movies, and going to the mall. But now since people act so nasty to me I hate going out. I still go to those places, but I don't enjoy it as much anymore. I am right now studying with the Witnesses, but I'm trying to wait and see if this is the right religion I want to join. I have bible study every Saturday with a lady named Sharon Rude. She's a really nice person. The things that she's teaching me seems comforting, especially the way my life seems to be going. It's nice to hear that one day this world and pain will all come to an end. I don't want to associate with any of these people in this world because they do things that are too bad. I would hate for my looks to change and then these people start to except me and end up getting me to do the same things they did to me to someone else. I don't want to associate with anyone who discriminates someone else for who they are or what they look like. So I don't know what to do. I try to ignore people and not think about them, but when you got a whole lot of people staring at you mindlessly and yelling mean comments at you, how do you ignore it. I'm still praying and reading the bible trying to have some type of comfort in my life, but I don't know if I'm doing it wrong. It would be nice to have someone tell me what all I need to do in order to please Jehovah. That's why I'm looking for some true Christians, so they can teach me that. I want good influences to be with. That's all I want is someone that I can talk to and feel comfortable around. Hopefully I can find some people here and at the Kingdom Hall that will be that person. Thanks for your messages and I hope this message helps you know alittle more about me. See ya later.


  • thinkers wife
    thinkers wife

    I am so sorry for your pain. It is so sad that many people "judge a book by it's cover". Please though, do research on JW's over and above what your teacher is showing you!!
    You are young and there are so many verizons to examine. Don't just limit yourself to one.
    Good Luck!!

  • logical

    I'll be your friend.

    I went with the JW's for similar reasons, to serve Jah and make good friends, I was mistaken. Not one of them has anything to do with me now

    Be careful, and make friends outside the JW's if you can. You need unconditional friendship, and its very rare to get that type of friendship in any religious group, especially the JW's.

    True Christians follow Christ, not a man-made organisation, and get baptised in the Father, Son, Holy Spirit. I pray you remember this should you decide to get baptised as a JW, cos it will save you a LOT of pain.

  • ianao


    Please listen to logical, he knows what he's talking about.

  • patio34

    Hi Vernisha,

    My name is Pat and I'm glad you introduced yourself to us.

    This is a wonderful place for stimulating conversations and making new friends.

    Speaking from experience, I know there are many ways of making friends besides joining such a group as Jehovah's Witnesses. Why I would encourage you to be very careful is because once you are one, it's very difficult if you ever change your mind and/or think differently from what they teach.

    What you might do is a search on the net and look at some of the sites such as 'freeminds,' 'silentlambs,' the 'watchtower observer,' etc.

    After all, you should know a lot about any organization/religion you would join--more than just one side.

    I hope you stick around and gain a lot from the interesting discussions we have.


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