BluesBrother wrote
Why does it take a whiff of scandal or perceived wrongdoing to jerk the elders into action? I would lay odds that they did not do a lot to "help " her when she was a fading JW, and in the state of "spritual sickness"
You are right, they didn't. She got a couple of phone calls when she first
started missing meetings, then nothing at all for several months, until
the elders heard that she has a "worldly" boyfriend. They were soon on
her case then, but it was too little, too late by that time.
We were talking to Julie on the phone last night, and she is very happy
that everything is resolved and the elders will now leave her alone. Her
df'ing will be announced next Tuesday, but she is writing to a few that
she was close to before that, explaining why she started missing
meetings in the first place - she had been inactive for a couple of
months before meeting her bf, and wasn't particularly interested
in going back to meetings anyway.