Trevor, your experiences of being bullied by the elders reminds me of the awful treatment meted out to an elderly pioneer sister. Her crime was that she tactfully hinted to a courting sis that the elder she was engaged to had in the past beaten his first wife who'd left him because of his mistreatment of her. After many years he'd become free to marry again and started courting this poor single parent sis.
The pioneer sis, after much soul searching decided to warn the single parent sis. The courting sis broke off her engagement to the elder.
After that the elders started fabricating lies about the elderly pioneer sis. A particularly upsetting lie they circulated was that she was engaging in unseemly conduct with her young non witness 25 year old nephew who was living at her home - he supported her financially. Things got very bad for her emotionally after that. Fortunately she had the good sense to leave the truth. Her worldy family eventually stepped in to take care of her.