bigdreaux's thread caused me to think back on similar threads where the poster's have been blasted for their exit threads. Most try to reason with the poster with positive responses and try to get them to stay with us, but a few have posted negative thoughts to being downright nasty.
I have noticed various post's stating "you'll be back" (in sarcasm) to those who outright state that we are better off without you (the poster who says goodbye.)
There have been good people here, bigdreaux included, who are ostracised for their post to say goodbye. My opinion about the goodbye post's has varying feelings behind them:
#1) Some are doing it for dramatics. (Maybe not said mailiciously) *(My thoughts stated below.)
#2) Some are hurt by things said here and yet want to keep in contact with those that have made them feel secure in their painful process out of a controlling cult who have made them feel like less than nothing. *
#3) Others have done so because they have done their healing and therefore feel the need to go beyond the 'therapy' offered here. *
"I know... with Pioneer School coming up; you won't have much time to post." (Maybe not said mailiciously, I cannot be sure.)
"oh well" (Maybe not said mailiciously, I cannot be sure.) To put my thoughts in: * * #1) Nuff said. * #2) I think people like bigdreaux fits in this category. He was hurt by some things said here, in my opinion. I may be wrong, I admit that. He may have felt unneeded/unwanted. But don't we all feel that way sometimes? * #3) nuff said. And we should be very happy for these people. Hell I have been on this forum for way too long for my own taste, but on that note, that may too long for some but it may seem the norm for others. I am so happy bigdreau decided to stay, I have enjoyed his thought's and him being open and opening himself up emotionally. In the stagnant post's of late, it has been refreshing to see the views he has brought to the forum. big, I hope you stay (as you have stated in your recent thread), at least until you feel comfortable enough to leave us, as painful as it may be (to us at least.) When you leave, we will miss you, but we should rejoice in your recovery. We should also applaud your decision, because of your healing, that you feel the need to branch out and live life as it should be without the control. Whew, got that off my chest!