I'm just curious

RAF

I'm just curious to get the point ... what did you find the most satisfying in your relationship (I mean serious relationship which is supposed to last) with your other half after 5 to 10 years:
A listing would be nice in the preferential order like
1-
2-
3-
4-
etc if more

RAF

(in the long run is important here - so maybe it was not obvious in the begining or maybe not even any kind of priority at first)

DJK

1. Trust.

2. Supportive. We are greatly supportive of each other.

There's more in fact I cant think of anything negative other than mood swings. She's working on those.

RAF

DJK
Trust (not easy to find out from the start)
Supportive (humm ... sounds cool and maybe it's easier to realise it from the beginning)
Now it's really interesting that you've thought about putting the negative !!! Thanks !!!

changeling

A feeling of safety (emotional and physical)

trust

fun

our children

in no particular order

Barbie Doll

1 Supportive

2 trust

3 Not to lie

4 Not to talk to much

5 Make him feel Important

Fe2O3Girl

It is hard to reduce the complexities of a relationship to bullet points, let alone to prioritise them.

It is a partnership. It is someone to rely on. Two heads are better than one, two hearts and two wages are better than one! It is a learning experience.

1 - Support. Emotional, financial, ect.

2 - Sex! Of course! I can't believe no-one else has listed this. I am not living with my brother!

3 - Friendship. Good times, laughs, learning, sharing.

3 - Parenthood, which wouldn't happen without the first three.

Rachel

RAF

Thank you all (wasn't expecting to have more answers)
Ok ... maybe you needed to know why I'm asking ... the longest relationship I've been in began when I was 18 and lasted 11 years but from the 4th year I already knew that we wouldn't end up together - and maybe somehow it was visible to him (I don't know) but I didn't look for somebody else just because, I had no interest in doing it till we really broke up and even a very long after.
Since then I've never been in a relationship I thought that it would last forever and I knew it from the begining - it was more like occasional short to long compagnonship (since I never lived with anyone - but my ex occasionnaly because I or he needed it for diferent practical reasons - and all together something like 2 years in several occasions from 1 month to almost 1 year on 11 years).
And this experience of living together sounds like hell after just a little while ... and I must tell probably because of the mood swings stuff BTW !!! ... Nothing as much bothering than someone who change his mood when its for a reason that you don't know about ... Now I have to wonder if that was not something which have or not bothered him from me, but when my mood swings I make sure that the other one know about the why if he asks, (I feel like if he doesn't, he knows why - it's like I can feel it that he knows).
To be able to stand someone on the long run ... I think that I need "harmony" that's why I think that not living together is the best choice for me, because we can chose the moment we want/need to be together (there is a reason - his/mine/both other than : We don't have the choice - and it's forever) also because I'm moody ... And of course it's not always related to the other one ... lots of things can absorbe me to the point I'm able to forget about whoever (I know it's an issue) and sometimes I just feel the need to be alone or even lets say feel free (and that's not easy to explain to who is concerne) but when we decide to be together well I want harmony.
Trust comes into all your answers (which sounds an obvious need) only changeling haven't mentionned supportive / someone to rely on but A feeling of safety (emotional and physical) looks the same ... it's related to trust ... and of course sounds very important in the matter (when I would put parenthood on the side since it depends on if children are involved - but I guess I would enjoy that).
So thanks for the confirmation, I guess what I need to personnaly look for, is what's listed here
harmony (which is probably related to understanding and complicity)
trust (on what is really important - which have nothing to do with blinded loyalty)
Somehow I guess that's what is important to me with friends also on the long run either in fact.

What Actually Love Is

Why do we close our eyes when we sleep? When we cry?
When we imagine? When we kiss?
This is because the most beautiful things in
the world are unseen.

We are all a little weird and life's a little weird
and when we find someone whose weirdness
is compatible with ours,
we join up with them and fall in
mutual weirdness and call it love.

There are things that we never want to let go of,
people we never want to leave behind,
but keep in mind that letting go isn't the end of the world,
it's the beginning of a new life.

Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt,
those who have searched and those who have tried.
For only they can appreciate the importance of the people
who have touched their lives.

A great love? It's when you shed tears and still
you care for him,
it's when he ignores you and still you long for him.
It's when he begins to love another and yet you still smile
and say I'm happy for you.

If love fails, set yourself free,
let your heart spread its wings and fly again.
Remember you may find love and lose it, but when love dies,
you never have to die with it.

The strongest people are not those who always win
but those who stand back up when they fall.

Somehow along the course of life,
you learn about yourself and realize
there should never be regrets,
only a lifelong appreciation of the choices you've made.

A true friend understands when you say, I forgot,
waits forever when you say, just a minute,
stays when you say leave me alone,
opens the door even before you knock and says can I come in?

Loving is not how you forget but how you forgive,
not how you listen but how you understand,
not what you see but how you feel,
and not how you let go but how you hold on.

It's more dangerous to weep inwardly rather than outwardly.
Outward tears can be wiped away while secret tears scar forever.

In love, very rarely do we win
but when love is true, even if you lose,
you still win just for having the tingle of loving someone
more than you love yourself.

There comes a time when we have to stop loving someone
not because that person has stopped loving us
but because we have found out
that they'd be happier if we let go.

It's best to wait for the one you want than settle for one that's available.
Best to wait for the one you love than one who is around.
Best to wait for the right one
because life is too short to waste on just someone.

Sometimes the one you love turns out to be the one who hurts you the most,
and sometimes the friend who takes you into his arms
and cries when you cry
turns out to be the love you never knew you wanted.

If you really love someone never let go,
don't believe that letting go means that you love best,
instead fight for your love,
that's what true love is.

Laugh to your heart's content; you cannot go
through life without it.

Meeting Junkie No More

PEC, that was beautiful. Did you write that yourself?

I'm just curious

What Actually Love Is

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