would you prefer them to ask what you would like or to surprise you, and if they did ask for ideas would you be offended?
The reason I ask is that my mother in law has just told my husband that we may as well go back to how we were when we were witnesses and stop buying them presents as we don't put any thought into it and ask them what they want. He is really upset by this comment while I am just plain bloody angry!
What would you do or say in this situation?