Well, I guess I've come to terms with it. I missed out on visiting with two of the sweetest non-jw relatives I have because I just couldn't handle not being the center of their universe this time around. That's just so borderline! And a bummer.
I talked to one of them today and could not coordinate a meet-up because of my work and her travel. I think I need to get myself set up a bit better financially so that my home is more welcoming to potential guests. I think I'm the one with the problem here, although the jw dynamics of disfellowshipping just exacerbate my sense of alienation.
The aunt I talked with today offered to drive up here with a borrowed vehicle, etc., so I just need to quit feeling sorry for myself and get over the fact that they need to spend more time with the JW family than with me. After all, it is their mom and sister they're visiting and I'm just a neice.
And they have done a lot of nice things for me over the years and have been more in touch with me than my own immediate family. I think the other jws are somewhat peripheral in their visits, (except for the fact that they're the ones with the resort properties and the entertaining advantages). I know they have claimed at times that they feel like hostages when they come down here (to my parents') to visit.
It's too bad I let my depression and negative feelings get in the way of what might have been a nice visit. Then again, it could have turned into a nasty one if I let go some of that in the wrong way to them. So, I guess it's just better off here, for now. Maybe sometime I can communicate it in a healthy way to the aunts that I feel like an afterthought . . . but then again, if I am just an afterthought or an inconvenience, it might not make sense to bring it up at all . . .