The thing is, i can picture myself making repeated requests to not talk about JW's to my son/daughter and them requests being ignored unless i threaten something drastic. I have known it happen
Yeah, but, if you were with a young JW kid, maybe you'd try to convince him the JWs were a cult? (You might not, I don't know) If you did, and his parents found out, they'd be very annoyed. Should you have respected their wishes, or did you do the right thing by trying to save them? Which is more important? This is how they think, except the situation is reversed. Yeah, any requests will definitely be ignored, I don't know what the best thing to do is.