Just thinking out loud here...
When I was 19 and df'd for being pregnant (yes they knew I was repentant but told me I was to be used as an example), I ended up with no friends.
When I was 20, some four months later, and I was reinstated before my daughter was born, I thought for sure everything would be fine. After all, hadn't I been reinstated? Wasn't I a valued member of the Congregation?
Well lo and behold I was a NOBODY. Although I had been a 'strong publisher' for YEARS and reg. pio'd for three years, when I was reinstated I was a NOBODY. Believe me. Some elder's wives would even talk to me. Not only was there no baby shower which isn't a requirement, but since I was a working single mom it would have helped me out a lot, only 3 families in the cong. got me a baby present.
Well, it's almost 12 years later and I'm about to have another baby. Circumstances are different.
I've got a whole new circle of friends. And while we're not rich, we're not poor either, my hubby and me. These friends don't even know I was raised a JW, thankfully, so my past is never an issue.
DH and I own two houses, two cars, we're doin ok.
So, how come on Oct 13, 150 of our closest friends will be honoring DH and I in the form of a baby shower?
Why did my best girlfriend tell me to go register at two stores because she was sick of getting asked what people should buy for us?
Why are these people supporting us even though we could do this baby thang without their help?
Why are people who I have only known for less than five years acting like real friends when the JW's couldn't even be bothered to help out one of their (lifetime) own who really needed it at the time?
I'll tell you why. Because they're disgusting, vile, evil things from the world.
Damn worldlings make me sick.