Wow, so many responses already. Thanks to everyone for your support.
I know I'm about to send my wife reeling through a lot of different emotions, but I'm ready. Believe me, if I didn't think my wife could take it, I wouldn't have done it. I've read enough experiences on this board where that simply didn't work. Truth be told, although both of us have grown up in "the truth," we haven't been like others who went straight to pioneering or going to bethel. Instead, I chose full time work (yet I skipped college bec it was "bad"), and so did my wife. Yes, I still went out in service, all the meetings, and was "faithful" enough to be appointed to MS, yet many of my friends who did not choose to work full time developed that "holier than thou" attitude with us, and lessened their association with us. That hurt a lot, just because we wanted to work full time, own a home and have health insurance??! Give me a break. And then there's those that don't think we should have gotten pregnant. Unbelievable. Anyway, many of my friends now are in the "truth" but just go to meetings and do the minimum amount of service. They were all raised in the "truth" too, but I wonder if most of them even give a hoot about God, although they know all the right moves for being a witness. If there's one thing I've learned (the hard way), what people say about witness friends is true, most are not really your friends.