I feel that the elders had a direct influence on my divorce.
I asked the elder who had disfellowshipped me to bring my wife to the phone as we were going through a divorce. He said he would NOT get her, but would tell her I had called. I said she will not call me back and that he was making me question my faith. He said that he was sorry, but......
To me, a religion should have as it's MAIN GOAL to KEEP FAMILIES TOGETHER. Leave all other beliefs aside, LOVE should be it's biggest goal and keeping families TOGETHER a prime objective!
My jw religion had NO interest in my family. During that conversation I asked him if my wife was doing well. I hadn't seen her for a few months, we were separated, and I wanted to know that she was okay. He said that he HAD NEVER ASKED HER about the matter, but that SHE WAS AT THE HALL and so she must be doing well.
All he cared about was that she was keeping a seat warm at the hall! Here he was the watchtower conducter, the elder DIRECTLY involved with my case and he NEVER TALKED to her or ASKED her about it?!!! I thought to myself WHAT kind of a religion is THAT????
So that started me out to my discovery of something I NEVER thought I would think...jw's are a cult and concerned only for the whole and not the parts of the congregation and are Biblically DEFUNCT!
I now LOVE going to my two local community churches and I have NEVER felt HAPPIER in my life!!!
Now I can't believe I ever believed that 'stuff' they taught me in the first place. How was I SO duped!!???