We just celebrated our eldest daughter's bday for the first time since we left (she turned 10). We didn't go the cake and party thing, but she got presents and we went out for breakfast and then spent a celebratory family day together.
I was really emotional about it. It was such a relief to finally be able to celebrate the life of this child that came into our lives 10 years ago - it felt so natural. For me it was about the whole family honouring her and making her feel loved and special. We really wanted her to know how much we valued her in our family unit and how blessed we were to have her.
My husband and I talked about it later and realised how sad it is that as a JW no one ever celebrates your life! How sad is it that we didn't even celebrate a person's special value at least one day in a whole year? The JW mentality is that everyone is cut from the same cookie cutter - no matter what your gifts and talents all you are suited for is the same meeting attendance, same door to door work, same same same conformity - and don't you forget it. I think a lot of JW's have self-esteem issues because they are not honoured as an individual.
I still have a thing about the commercialism re holidays. However, after the weekend I also realised how important it is to the human psyche to have reasons to celebrate. Life can be so mundane and routine and it is too easy to get focussed on all the things going wrong. Even if we don't buy into all the reasons for the holidays, I think it is just about celebrating life, finding cause to have fun and take a break and generally spending time with loved ones. If you don't want to buy into all the holiday hoo-ha, then create your own reasons to celebrate something.