It's sadly comforting to me....

by megsmomma 4 Replies latest jw friends

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  megsmomma

  When I read of others stories, and seeing how smart, caring, loving, and reasonable they are....and yet EVEN they have family that won't be reasoned out of the watchtower mentality....it comforts me so much. But, then I feel wrong sometimes to feel that way....because I wish NONE of us had the pain of feeling like we have lost loved ones out there.

  Then again, I would rejoice with anyone who finally gets their loved one to leave the cult, and I pray for everyone to find success.

  My little sister (21) just came to visit us this weekend, and she brought her roomates. One of them is DF'd and my sister was never baptised, but thinks it is the true religion and will argue about it with me if I try to point things out (so, I stopped doing that) When they were here I had to hold my tongue, so as to not sound like an apostate, but I was able to give her roomate the COC book. I just said "It's neat to see what goes on in the governing body...I think you might like to read it" I didn't make a big deal of it, but I am hoping it is a seed that reaches them both.

  Lyndi, of the planting lil seeds class
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  mrsjones5

  You are learning your lessons well young one. You will soon be in the Jedi Class.

  You go girl!
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  dedpoet

  Hi megsmomma,

  Giving someone CoC can be very effective in getting them out of the jws. I was still a ministerial servant when I read that, and up for elder. By the time I was half way through it, I knew I wasn't goung to be an elder, (although I was having doubts about wanting to be one anyway), and I resigmed as an ms. Afew months after reading COC, I left altogether. It was also the final piece of proof Linda needed to leave, and a friend of ours has read it since, and da'd not long afterwards.

  I think it has to do with the writing style Ray employs, he is so matter of fact and non - confrontational, you can see there is no bitterness in him. I hope it has an effect on your sister and her friend.

  Trev
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  freedomloverr

  I think you handeled that well Lyndi.
  
  I really think the only way to respond to people whether they be jw's or not, is through love and compassion. I think we forget sometimes how terrifying it was to let our minds open up enough to think the jw's were wrong. it is a paralyzing moment. no wonder they get defensive.
  
  good job to you!
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  jaguarbass

  Then again, I would rejoice with anyone who finally gets their loved one to leave the cult, and I pray for everyone to find success.

  I work with juveniles in jail. The popular thinking is that behavior comes from within. To change someones behavior you have to give them a thought process that causes them to see the negative effects of being a JW and the positive effects of not being one. That is the challenge to getting your loved ones out of the cult. Where it gets complicated with the jws and religion is all the intangible aspects that can not be quantified in this life time. The jws were big about not living for today but living for the distant future in paradise. That makes it a pretty hard nut to crack. Many of us now feel this life is all their is so we want to go for the gusto. The jws and various christians have 2 lifes this one and their immaginary one in the future. When you have one foot in the past and one foot in the future, you end up pissing all over today, which is all any of us truly has. The present.