My youngest brother just called me, and during our conversation he mentioned that he got a letter from our uber-witness sister. You know the type, married out of the cult, professional victim, fanatical believer, lives in constant fear the big J will watch her doing something she shouldn't.
My brother is out too, and what he found interesting about the letter, was that it wasn't addressed to him, it was addressed to his wife (his wife and our sister are not friends nor have they had any contact in YEARS). The letter was to inform her of something business related (for him not her), and didn't even mention my brother. We figure she rationalized it that talking to the unbelieving spouse of an apostate is ok but talking to a family member. Didn't stop her from gambling while he was visiting a few years ago, though, she must have done a lot of extra praying to fix that up with the big J.
Do you remember those types of rationalizations? "Well they haven't specifically said this, so its ok" or well I can't do THIS, but if I do THIS it works out the same and I can get around it. WTF?? Doesn't that send up some kind of red flags???
The other interesting thing about our conversation was about our mother. She fits the above description of my sister with the addition of being an abusive beyotch. Apparently he and his therapist were having a discussion about our parents and the religion. The therapist asked him, "What would you do if your mom said tomorrow, 'You know you're right f*k this religion, I'm out of here'? I told him I thought she would be the same disallusioned angry woman, without an enabler to keep her in her comfort zone. I think I like her better now when she doesn't talk to us!
But as the conversation went on we got into the passive aggressive part, our mom, our sister, several other family members, and scores of witnesses we personally knew were all smug and self righteous about not having to do anything at armeggedon, all these people would be killed by god and they were/are gleeful about it. Its like they have all this anger and can't vent it so they pass it along to their god who will step in and do the dirty work for them.
Ok I'm venting, but I wonder how many of you have had similar experiences or thoughts?
Sherry