Wife swapping in the congregation, ever experience it?

by free2beme 9 Replies latest jw friends

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  free2beme

  Wife swapping by definition was something that came from the care free sex days of the 1970's. You know, before a thing called AIDS became something we worried about. Basically, it was a sex game of taking another person's wife home for sex, and you let them take your wife home. More along the lines of the swinger life style. This topic, is about something else.

  When I was in a congregation, as a young person. There was an event that had me wondering, how is this okay? A couple in the congregation that were married got disfellowshiped, because the wife was sleeping with another man in the congregation who was also married. He was disfellowshipped, as well. After they were gone, the two mates left from the relationship were scripturally separated due to the sex and started seeing each other a few months later. A few months after that, they got married and went on to live as husband and wife with the people who were married to the people who their spouses cheated on them with. Now the two that were disfellowshipped, also got married. It took three years, but they both got reinstated. So one day I was sitting at an assembly, when I was 23, and was commenting to others, about how we remembered when person A was married to person B and how the couples basically just swapped wives. This was weird to me. Then just before I left the religion, I met another couple this happened with too ... weird. So, anyone else ever see something like this?
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  Stealth453

  I must admit, that during my Klingdung hall attending days, I didn't want the one I had, and no one had anything better to offer for trade. Kind of like trading a '73 Lada for a '72.
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  ballistic

  Yep, there was an example of this in a congregation I went to.
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  fullofdoubtnow

  That happened in another congregation in Derby. A brother left his wife, and a sister left her husband, and moved in together. Df'ing soon followed, then divorce. followed by them marrying each other. Soon after that, the estranged spouses got together and married, without any problems from the elders. They thought that all this was prearranged, but couldn't prove it, as the two that had been deserted didn't get together for a couple of years afterwards, officially anyway. Eventually, the ones that had left their spouses were reinstated, and when I left were best of friends with their former partners.
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  free2beme

  Maybe it is just something that is prone to happen in small groups like the Witnesses. I think, when you have such a small selection to choose from, that you could find something like this to be more common then we might think.
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  freetosee

  
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  95stormfront

  This very thing happened in the first congregation I ever attended between an elder and a MS wife. While the two so-called guilty parties were DF'd, it was heard that they'd moved away together and had gotten married and were attending another congregation out of state. Meanwhile, the parties not DF'd walked into the AstroArena together hand in hand with heads held high as if they owned the place; a newly married couple.
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  Athanasius

  Maybe it should be called "Divorce Jehovah's Witness Style," one couple takes the fall while the so-called innocent mates get a free pass.
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  LittleToe

  Athanasius nailed it. It happened more often than you'd think. It was a risk on the couple that took the fall, but the net result was usually that everyone was happy. If they were circumspect enough the brothers would eventually become Elders (again, in some cases).

  Aside from that, your first example of wife-swapping also occured. There was a big hoo-haar in Britain after someone blew the whistle on some shenanagans in "Centre Parks" in the early 90s.
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  Rabbit

  It took a few years of separation, then a divorce and I swapped my uber jw wife for a never-been-a-dub one. And this one is a much better model, too.

  She's not judgmental, close-minded, sexually repressed, in fact she is the opposite. She's loving, open-minded and worldly...and she actually thinks for herself !

  Good swap !

  Rabbit