The Love Starved (page 2)

becca1

You are so right purps. I have been to many a meeting and though surrounded by many people felt utterly and completely alone. And I happen to be a pleasant person who smiles at everyone no matter what. I can just imagine what more introverted people go through in this organization.

purplesofa

Thanks to everyone for your comments on this thread............it really does go deep into our hearts

((((((Warlock))))))

There were also some other issues of associating with members of the opposite sex that came up and she pretty much ended up friendless

I don't know what the circumstances were but I remember my daughter getting treated badly for her friendliness towards boys her age. She has four older brothers and two step brothers...........her being the only girl. She was very capable of hanging out with guys and talking to them without the raging hormone thing going on. It was quite natural for her to be able to get along with boys rather than girls.

She was quickly disliked by the other young teenage girls, that did have raging hormones. The boys liked her like a buddy. But it is not accepted for girls and boys to mix together .........as they are always up to no good!

The whole experiance took away an innocence that she had. She started to feel insecure, self-conscience. It made something ok into something bad. It's like superstition to me.

and I didn't even grow up in it. I joined up.

so did I.

purps

littlerockguy

This thread has brought back memories and years of me being a JW like no other one has. Sometimes as a JW I felt so alienated on both sides even some family that I considered worldly at the time and not close to a lot of the other JWs in my congregation; the were so cliquish. It got to the point to where I would stay up all night after getting home from work late at night and drinking and taking Restoril to help go to sleep if the wine didn't first.

purplesofa

Posting this thread and reflecting on the comments this week has been very healing for me.

I have thought of the hours and hours..............night after night..........day after day..........weekend after weekend,

I lived in lonliness, seclusion, reclusive, constant and perpetual disapproval of myself. I was very unhappy excluding myself from life. I felt constantly punished, like being grounded when I was living at home as a child.

I know now I was eager to get to meetings as it was the ONLY time it was ok and approved to be anywhere. Not because I liked it or that I needed to hear for the millionth time to not do something that was never in my heart to ever do in the first place.

What a huge waste...........I can't believe the mental gymnastics I went through to justify living the way I did.

purps

lawrence

Big hug to you purps! Great thread.

sass_my_frass

Yeah, I remember sitting at a lot of JW gigs surrounded by Love and not having a single friend. For three years I shared a house with the two most socially active sisters in the cong., and I still didn't have a friend. I just found them all so dull and uninspiring. There were a couple who I thought I might be able to enjoy time with, but I didn't have the right stuff on my report slip (or indeed, a report slip). And just not being able to talk, oh god it was this horrid vacuum and it was like there was no way out.

Twitch

Live now, we know that is real.

:-)

hambeak

Purps you brought back some painful memories of when I was a young teen in the org. I really wasn't part of the in crowd so to speak. Young folks are so isolated in that your only friends must be jw's and then you can't really open your heart to them for fear of being turned in. It took many years to accept myself and I still have a hard time making friends and opening up to people and sometimes when I do it is like a dam breaking too much information to soon just so much bottled up for so long. My god I hate what that crap did to me!

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