ray83, the fact that you do not appear to have asked the local body of elders this question speaks volumes. YOu ask your valid question on this forum!!
You appear to be going round and round in circles trying to fathom out what is really very easy to understand if you allow yourself to come up for a breath of fresh air:
The JW organization is just another man-made religion run by men who have "policies" from which they cannot deviate. They are as trapped as your husband is.
Your husband could try getting a life beyond the JW orbit.
Better yet, you could serve as a marvellous model for him by taking decisive steps away from the organization and warmly inviting your husband to join you in making a life away from the delusiuonal force field of the JW organization.