WVPeach, sorry your dad is such a twit. Is he a twit because his church tells him that is how he should be or is he just naturally a jerk? Because in the case of JWs who leave the religion, it isn't 'personal' when ones mom, dad or child stops speaking to them. It is REQUIRED by their religion if they wish to remain in the religion. Those that do not cut off their children are at risk of being expelled themselves-and will be if they are caught. That is not to say that some do not 'break the rules' but by the comments you see on this board, you can KNOW that there are many families who take the shunning RULES very seriously. We don't stop talking to our parents because they are jerks, or stupid or we don't like their religion. THEY refuse to have anything to do with their children because their religion tells them that they must. Do you understand that we know the difference between a generally obnoxious religous person who just takes religion and makes it a weapon and those whose religion turns them into the weapon? We are fully aware that there are jerks outside the religion, but your Dad took his religion to a place it wasn't supposed to go. These JWs are doing precisely what they are TOLD to do by their religion.
Whats wrong with the religion is not the occasional mean people that show up all over the world in every religion, it is the basic tenet of the religion to treat others in this way. Ask you husband how they would treat you if you were baptised as a JW and then decided to join the local baptist church or Methodist church? How would your JW 'friends' treat you? They would cut you and you would become invisible. They would pity your husband and not come round the house anymore(if they do now) He MIGHT decide that the marriage was untenable and divorce you, but most likely, he would give you the cold shoulder a lot. Communication would likely break down, and there would be enormous guilt heaped on your head and pressure to 'return to the organization and serve Jehovah'. Because a JW going to the local Baptist church is pretty much worse than going to the local strip club or nearest orgy.