I have been d/f for about 10 years now so I don't get to read anymore publications or keep up on any changes. But here is my question and little background.
I work with a d/f girl and her sister was d/f as well about a month ago. The girls sister and her husband were inactive for 5+ years. The husband cheated on her and the wife was granted a scriptural divorce. During the divorce the wife started to study with a "mature" sister at her hall and also started attending meetings again. A few months later she meets a really nice worldy guy and starts seeing him. At this time she stopped her studies and meeting attendance. Her mother finds out she is sleeping with this guy and turns her into the elders and at that time she gets d/f. The sister (the one I work with) told me that she was only d/f because she started a study and showed interest in coming back to the meetings. She said if she had remained inactive that the elders could not have done anything to her for her relationship with the worldy guy.
I had always thought that as long as you were baptized and were found to commit wrongdoing that you could be d/f whether you were attending meetings or not. Have the rules changed or was I under the wrong thinking to begin with?