They don't mean to be hypocrites, they can't help it.
Well, now, who does mean to be... really? Does that excuse them? I think not.
As already mentioned, they will hope to keep their member instead of losing her. They also hope to convert the "worldly" husband.
Ok... and then why don't they attend to their flock better with other issues then, to keep them rather than losing them? They don't. They're heavy-handed. Why so easy on this one issue?
daystar (of the "I don't mean to be an asshat, I can't help it" class)