I tried to just fade away. I felt that DA'ing myself would just be recognizing an authority I no longer believed in. My mistake was though that I would occasionally go to a memorial every year or two. So, when I was unmarried and pregnant, the elders wanted to talk to me. I never did. They DF'd me. Now they still bug me every once in awhile. LOL. I've never really been shunned. Whenever I see a witness I make it a point to smile really big. Most of 'em smile back. Mostly they think you can't be happy outside the org. Oh well, I'm not totally happy but I sure as hell am not miserable like I was when I was in.