When I was DF'd at age 16, the elders never really had a meeting with me, it was just accusations and sriptures to back them up. They were so ready to hang me.... they were drooling over the excitement of it.
After the decision was reversed by a second comittee they still couldn't stand me. There was just one elder who apologized to my parents, but of course not to me.
In later years, it was found out that some of the very ones who were the harshest, were guilty of the very things they accused me of at the time.
YOU REMEMBER IT LIKE IT HAPPENED YESTERDAY, RIGHT? EVEN THOUGH IT'S BEEN 31 YEARS AGO. I, TOO, HAVE MEMORIES OF BAD STUFF THAT HAPPENED TO MY KIDS MANY, MANY YEARS AGO. TO THIS DAY I CAN STILL FEEL MY PAIN AT THAT TIME. WISH I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER W/MY KIDS. WE HAVE A WONDERFUL RELATIONSHIP AS ADULTS NOW. AND I LOVE THEM ALL DEARLY.
KARMA IS GOOD. WHAT GOES AROUND, COMES AROUND.