I got a weird call from a work mate last night. She's going through hell for the past year or so with her soon-to-be ex, who had been carrying on an affair and stopped sharing their family expenses. Long story short, he's out of the house now and has left her and their kids out in the country without any transportation. He took the family vehicle which they jointly own (according to her) when he could take public transportation from his new domicile to his place of work. Now she is stuck with 4 young children, and no means to get to a grocery store or to work, because there is no public transit service where they live.
Anyway, the call last night was to ask me to help her find the vehicle so she could "steal it back". I felt rather annoyed that made it sound like she wanted to get together for coffee initially and then threw in the "Oh, and if it's not too much trouble, I need you to drive me out of the province and help me look for the car so I can steal it back."
I really do empathize with the situation she's in, but I had to tell her that I couldn't support her doing that and I couldn't be involved if that's what she wanted to do. She got mad at me for saying no, and started the "What kind of friend are you?" guilt trip routine. In the end, I just said that a real friend wouldn't ask me to jeopardize myself like that. Sure, she may have a legal right to the vehicle, but her ex could report my license plate to the police as being an accomplice to car theft, considering the other horrid things he's done I wouldn't put it past him.
I'm still kind of angry that she even asked me to help her with this. I know she must be feeling pretty desperate to want to resort to those tactics, but I don't want to see her ruin her life like that either, especially over this scumbag.
Has anyone else had someone ask them to participate in something illegal? How did you handle it?