I've been looking forward to having the time to post this since Stilla made her big thread about getting the boot at 22.
I'm a huge fan of National Geographic and Jane Goodall, the "Gorillas in the Mist" lady. There was a special about 15 years ago that I remember well, it aired soon after the birth of my daughter.
She basically lived with this whole bunch of gorillas and observed their social behavior.
There was this one gorilla family, a mother with a 'teenage' daughter and a 'toddler' son. The daughter was well-adjusted. The son was a spoiled brat. He was pulling on his mother every minute of the day. He was demanding of all her attention and time.
The mother gorilla indulged his temper tantrums. Where other mother gorillas began the process of 'pushing' their children away to be on their own, she clung closer to him. She was afraid of everything. Extremely dysfunctional. This unnatural process of her 'looking after' a fully grown male gorilla as though he were a newborn literally wore her out. She died a very untimely death. Not a month later, her 'healthy son' died, too.
The narrator did such a good job of explaining the dynamics of why it's important for a spirit of independence to be fostered in a child gorilla, and how she did him a disservice by allowing him to cling on to her. She should have pushed him away. While it's natural for children to want to cling to their parents, the narrator showed that for the health of the gorilla child, he or she must be pushed to independence.
I beleive most JW parents have that same flaw. Where they shoud push their children to excel, instead they warn of failure. Where they should encourage their children to grow wings and fly, instead they sew their wings to the nest and volunteer to bring food back. Where most parents see possibilities, and allow their children to believe they can do anything they set their mind to, JW parents inherently believe that their children are underachievers. Where other parents rejoice at the opportunity to provide a world of wonderment, to the JWs their children are a burden and exist to serve the parent's interest and needs.
I learned a lot about how NOT TO PARENT from that gorilla.
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