My situation: I DA'd this past March. The ex is still JW, in a city nice and far away so isn't able to give me any local grief. I have three kiddos, 8, 10 and 12. The 8yo (boy) could really give a crap, I think. He's the one who, during meetings, would draw out times tables on the graph paper I bought him... or draw whatever else etc. Anything but pay attention. I never discouraged this, TG.
My 12yo is going through the motions fairly well, but I think does believe most of it. Only because she hasn't been given much opportunity to see the "other side" -- the truth about the "truth". I didn't turn off the video someone posted here about JW (can't remember what it's called... hour long and quite damning). She asked "is that against JW?" I told her, "no, it's truth about them." She was like.. "ok..." and kept watching. She has also read and seen Da Vinci Code, paints her nails black at home (picked it off at her dad's ) and is encouraged by me to "embrace your individuality!" as she's somewhat of a natural "hippie" and has been since tiny days. Loves rainbows, peace stuff, groovy things and swears she will own a Bug someday... In short, a very open-minded intellectual I have here.
My 10yo is kind of dogmatic. ~sigh~ She gets a bit self-righteous and it's annoying. LOL A for instance: during the JW video, they mentioned the 144,000. She stuck up her nose, and said "yep!" in agreement. Didn't stick around for the argument against (not b/c she knew it was anti-JW vid, but there was something else to do...) She also said "no he didn't!" at the movie screen during DVC... so, she's kind of indoctrinated. On the other hand, she is very very social with her wordly friends.
JW dad is at best, weak. I say this from a JW point of view... drives a convertable Mustang that's pimped out, shaves his head, wears weird silver jewelry and listens to techno (yes, he is odd). He's a slacker as far as studying for meetings, but is pretty good with and at FS. I think he somewhat romanticizes the whole JW thing, believing that it's the "best way of life for the kids" blah blah. But doesn't really live it himself... The kids are with him for the summer, except for "my" weekends. I haven't set foot in a KH since a Thurs eve of CO visit (and we left before that gaggy movie thing was done) and don't intend to again.
So, anyone with experiences on what worked to help their kids "see the light" or ease them from "mom was a JW but she doesn't go to meetings... I don't know what to think?!" etc and so on. Any issues that came up during transition and how you dealt. Any and everything welcome!