MsMcDucket, IMO you are the only person who can decide what your actions with your children should be. What I think is that you have 2 extremely shrewd girls. They're smart enough to stay dubs AND go to college AND get support from the dubs because of their evil worldly Mom. But they obviously value time to see you and to the congregation they can just say "we had to pick up a check" perfect cover for them. Again I have to say that you have raised 2 smart kids. Congratulations!
My girls (The twins)
Skully! OMG! (hugs) I just reread what I posted. . . . It didn't come out right. . . I wasn't trying to be argumentative. . . I was trying to explain my position. So sorry for sounding defensive.
Hey! You're on my most admired list!