I have so many great comments here I want to address, but I must say Nina, (Not Cruzenheart) that it would be really interesting if you yourself posted your private PM to me. It was really funny, but so harsh that it was also a bit insulting. I think that you only meant to help, but I am not at all what you seem to be thinking. (via your PM) So if you could please post it, then we can all talk more freely. Personally a lot of what you wrote was so off base, that I cannot begin to understand (without your help) where your perceptions came from.
See, I don't know you, but if you knew me...you would know that I am by no means destitute. I work hard for a big corporation and own my own business. It is new, but it is profitable. It is hard work, but I manage to keep everyone fed, clothed and in extra things like band. I am not at all a "paint my nails" kind of girl. We eat out if we can, but the most commom place for us to eat is a vegetarian food place down the road that uses no added things like monosodium Glutamate. (SP) I often crock pot it. Putting it on when I go to work, and it is done when we get home. I save for retirement and if I ever have to borrow, it is promptly paid back. No we are not rich, but we are not poor. Just daily life cost. Not rolling in the dough, but not destitute. Could be better and could be a LOT worse...believe me, if you read anything about me, I have been there and I have a drive in me that has, does and will take me far. If I slip up, I work harder. There is not a time in my life that you could say I sat on my bumm.
I do not have extended family to buy for really. I do also help take care of my elderly mom. That is just a responsibility I have.
I can't hardly shove any more food into the kitchen to feed that boy. He chooses to eat the stuff for meals or drink a case of soda if he thinks he can get by with it. (It is not because I can not or do not supply his needs). He is almost (is not) 6" tall and wears a size 12 shoe.
He is a 34" pant. So, no, in answer to to your questions, my children are not fat at all. In fact my two girls qualify as undersized, but it is genetic. I have to say, that I am not fat either. I am a mom who works in a desk all day, and works in a desk all night till 2AM and then works more in a desk in order to complete my education. I am not a tiny size 1-5, but a healthy (and working towards more so) size 12. I am also just shy of 5' 7"
My baby girl does like sugar, (so we monitor her) my son likes soda and my middle girl does not like either that much. She likes pickles. I think this is a pretty normal family. So when I asked him about the soda, it was out of concern that he does not drink too much. There was no reason to lie. All he had to do was say, yeah I did, and I would have said something that let him know that is a bit excessive. Cut back a bit.
My real reason for the post was "the lie". I just wanted to know if anyone had a kid that lied about stupid stuff (about if the sky was blue today.) You know, silly things that don't require any thought. I am curious as to where you got this whole scenario about me not feeding my kids enough from. That was some pretty strange stuff you posted.