OK, I was talking to my JW boyfriend on the phone for a while last night, and we were talking about some plans that we have for this coming summer. One of these plans is a family get-together / camping trip that his family does every year. I'm all gung-ho for doing family events with him, but while we were talking about it last night, I got really anxious about it.
I'd thought that it was just going to be his immediate family - parents, siblings, nieces and nephews, that sort of thing. Turns out that nope, it's actually most of his extended family. I tend to be really shy around new people - I nearly had a panic attack when I met his parents last summer - and the thought of having to meet ALL of his family really scares me.
And to make it even more uncomfortable for me, they're ALL Witnesses!! I'd never asked him how many JWs were in his family, I'd just assumed that there were probably quite a few because both sets of his grandparents were JWs, I just didn't realize that they're ALL Witnesses, every last one of them!!
So now, my little Anglican, Christmas-celebrating, Easter-egg-hiding, birthday-loving, overall-festive self is feeling very very very anxious about the whole deal. It was bad enough when he told me that he's a JW and that his parents and siblings are, but now that I know that his entire extended family are also JWs, I'm actually scared.
But I can't just pull out and say, "Sorry hun, can't go, your Jehovah's Witness family scares me", that's just wrong, I have more tact than that. I'll still go, but how exactly does a normal Christian spend a few days with a family full of JWs and still feel comfortable?? Or at least look like I'm still comfortable?? I don't know how hardcore these people are - his parents and siblings are pretty liberal, but I don't know about his extended family, they might all be diehard JWs for all I know, and the last thing I need is to have to try and act normal while fending off conversion.
Seriously, the thought of spending a few days with that many JWs really freaks me out, not just because they're his family, but because they're his family AND they're all JWs.
Any advice, anyone??