So I'm sitting on the couch with my husband in his grandmother's house, where his mother and brother (he's 40 and lives in the damp basement of the house - keep this in mind) lives also, chatting with the mil and bil who are sitting in the love seat.
Prior to this I had found a copy of an english version of the Kama Sutra in my mil's stack of books that she keeps next to the couch to read. I showed the book to my husband. Husband decided to tease his mother about the book. My mil declared that she didn't know what the book was about, until we explained it to her, and then confessed that the bil had bought it for her. She made sure to say that she would read it indepth since she now has a serious man.
So we're sitting there chatting about the youngest bil (he's 21) and the impending birth of his first child in May and whether the bil who still lives at home will ever have any children. My mil declares that at home bil will never have children. Bil says nothing. Mil then declares that my husband is the crazy one and his brother has more brains that he does. I don't say anything but think to myself "No, the crazy one is sitting right next to you."
This is my bil:
He can't carry a conversation without sounding like a lunatic
He's had the same job at the hospital he works at for over 20 years and still only makes $20,000 a year.
He is responsible for paying his grandmother's phone bill but recently got it cut off for non-payment of said bill.
He bought his mother a copy of the Kama Sutra.
He doesn't pay rent to live at grandma's house but ever has any money and last time we saw him he asked my husband for $20. No one knows what he does with his money and it's one of his mother's main compliants.
He lives in a damp basement - it's doesn't even have a private room.
He will not drive on highways. He says it scares him. His mother says that he falls asleep on the road. So when mil wants to go anywhere of long distance she either calls my husband or her own brother to help.
By comparasion my husband looks like a genius but to his mother he will always be the crazy one.