Christmas Hugs, Joel.
Somehow, I am still the chosen one or part of the chosen people that needs to judge others according to their behavior and mark those who don't comply.
Last night JT and I had a long conversation, and we were talking about the Witnesses need to be RIGHT about everything, not just religion.
Not only do I recommend "reflection" which has already been mentioned, but also a technique I've developed for some years.
A simple sentence-- "I've never thought about it like that!" Relieves the pressure of having to answer tit for tat (a time honored JW tradition) but it frees you from having to make judgement, period!
I do hope you're doing well. It's so good to have you on the board because there are so many lurkers dealing with these same issues and yet they are not able to voice them as clearly as you have.