Wander,
Your story sounds so familiar. I still live in the area that I grew up in and I run into old "friends" a few times a year. Last week I ran into one of my former best friends at the grocery store (remind me not to shop at THAT store anymore!) and she was all "hey, it's SO GREAT to see you!!!" (I'm a fader). I had to walk away from our brief conversation reminding myself over and over again that I like myself so much better now and that I'm so much happier. She probably thinks my life is a total train wreck since I left (since that's one of the tools that is used to keep people in), but actually the opposite is true.
Ugh, it's such a struggle, I feel ya.
BTW, I love your avatar.
-Happy