Sometimes I just don't know when to keep my big mouth shut. Today I think finally said enough to get DA'd.
For those of you just tuning in, a recap: about 2-3 years I came to realize everything I had been taught as a JW was a load of steaming turds. Since then I have managed to fade away more or less, without incident. At the same time I realized I needed to get out of a dead marriage, especially when my wife made it clear she had no intention of leaving the Borg.
So, our divorce is progressing, we had aranged for me to come and get the rest of my stuff out of the house Saturday. We had also agreed that we would have a 3rd party present in case there was any kind of disagreement, a JW neighbor from down the street. I called Friday to confirm the arrangements, everything was still a go. However when I got to the house, instead of the neighbor there was a husband and wife present instead. No explanation from my as to why the change in plan. If I had been smart, I would have left then and there, since my wife had obviously changed our agreement without telling me.
Instead I stayed, starting packing things up. All of a sudden this guy starts telling me how we should proceed. After the second incident, I told him he needed to back off. So then he goes and stands in the corner and just watches.
Well I had to leave, and we agreed that I would stop by today to pick up the van we had loaded up, and also finish packing up the rest of my belongings. I show up at the agreed-upon time, shortly thereafter, (surprise!) this couple shows up again, this time of course in their meeting clothes. I am packing all my Watchtower-related literature, so rude guy asks me why I would want the literature. I told him , its my stuff, I want it. Of course he persisted, now revealing that he is an elder, and he is curious about whether I still considered myself a dub.
Now, I knew this was coming, I knew where he was heading, but stupidly I continued the conversation. He kept trying to pin me down on whether I was still a witness, and I kept telling him I wasn't going to answer any of his questions. It was pretty funny, one of his first comments was that he could see my attitude, since I had a beard!!! When I went to leave, I asked for his name, which he had told me yesterday. He said his name was Eric, I asked his last name, he wouldn't tell me.
So basically some guy I don't even know, won't give me his name, was able with the help of my wife, to confront me in what was my house and ask me a lot of personal questions about my life and my marriage, making it fairly clear that this was my last chance to get back in good with Jehovah. I fully expect to hear back that based on our conversation, I no longer consider myself one of Jehovah's Witnesses, and that the announcement will be made.
So again, the lesson here, never trust a JW, even a marriage mate. Never allow yourself to get cornered by an elder, and if you do, keep your mouth shut.
No Apologies