ITHINKISEE Update: Nothing to tell.

by ithinkisee 12 Replies latest jw friends

  • ithinkisee
    ithinkisee

    A few of you have asked me via PM how things are going with telling my wife.

    Unfortunately, nothing has happened yet. Each night I almost get up the nerve to tell her I chicken out.

    Anyhow ... just thought I would update ... will keep you posted. Thanks all you who have checked in. Unfortunately I don't have time to respond individually to each PM, but I will later this week.

    Thanks again,

    -ithinkisee

  • luna2
    luna2

    Good Luck, ithinkisee! Hopefully she will take it well when you are able to tell her.

  • TheListener
    TheListener

    Oh man, you're stomach must be in knots. I keep thinking about you and how stressful this must be. Always remember, you're a good person trying to do the right thing.

    Good luck.

  • XBEHERE
    XBEHERE

    Yes please keep us posted. I am waiting with "baited breath" to hear back from you about this.

  • RunningMan
    RunningMan

    I've always been a big fan of chickening out. This is one of those revelations that isn't going away. Selection of the right moment could make all the difference in the world.

  • willyloman
    willyloman

    Perhaps because you got a lot of conflicting advice, you're subconsiously uncertain how to proceed.

    I always apply the maxim: " When in doubt, do nothing."

    In time, you'll know what to do.

  • M.J.
    M.J.

    Perhaps you shouldn't make it a great big production. I know exactly what you are talking about when it comes to the jitters. I've personally found it to be best to bring things up spontaneously and very incrementally, whenever the situation/conversation seems to be asking for it. It really seems more "real" and less scripted, plus takes a lot of the pressure off. Plus it will be more likely that her defenses won't be up when she doesn't sense that she's the target of a presentation.

  • BrendaCloutier
    BrendaCloutier
    I am waiting with "baited breath" to hear back from you about this

    XBEHERE - you eating worms again?

  • trevor
    trevor

    Ithinkisee

    Willyloman makes a good point.

    My two penny worth. Women hate being told they are wrong but cannot help their curiosity. You could just mention that there are some things that just don’t add up but say that you have decided to ‘wait on Jehovah.’ Say nothing more. You may find she starts to want to know more. Curiosity killed the cat!

  • BrendaCloutier
    BrendaCloutier

    I like that one, Trevor.

    To unload all at once is a difficult thing to swallow for someone. It's likely to have adverse effects.

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