Ohhhh Andi I personally stay away from toxic people. I just don't have time nor energy for crap in my life, mine or theirs!
But like Travis said you take the good with the bad, the way I do it is if they have more of the traits I like/love than the ones I hate/dislike I can tolerate them for brief times and avoid at all cost discussing those things which make them go ballistic. It is not my job to try to change them, and after listening to their endless babble of how bad life sucks for them at some point you can say , "humm how much did you volunteer for this crap?" In other words they are a casual friend not a real true friend nor one that would earn any out of the way help from me. I'm very guarded with whom I am friends with but I am also very loyal to those who earn it.
I got this in my email yesterday from a dear friend and thought I would pass it along:
A REAL FRIEND TEST!
This is GOOD...I expect it back too!
A simple friend, when visiting, acts like a guest.
A real friend opens your refrigerator and helps himself.
A simple friend has never seen you cry
A real friend has shoulders soggy from your tears.
A simple friend doesn't know your parents' first names.
A real friend has their phone numbers in his address book.
A simple friend brings a bottle of wine to your party.
A real friend comes early to help you cook and stays late to help you clean.
A simple friend hates it when you call after he has gone to bed.
A real friend asks you why you took so long to call.
A simple friend seeks to talk with you about your problems.
A real friend seeks to help you with your problems.
A simple friend wonders about your romantic history.
A real friend could blackmail you with it.
A simple friend thinks the friendship is over when you have an argument. A real friend calls you after you had a fight.
A simple friend expects you to always be there for them.
A real friend expects to always be there for you!
A simple friend reads this e-mail and deletes it.
A real friend passes it on and sends it back to you!
Pass this on to anyone you care about.....if you get it back you have no beginning, no end. It keeps us together, like our Circle of Friends.
Today I pass the friendship ball to you. Pass it on to someone who is
a friend to you....
INSTANTLY WHEN YOU RECEIVE THIS LETTER, YOU'RE REQUESTED TO SEND
IT TO AT LEAST 10 PEOPLE, INCLUDING THE PERSON WHO SENT IT TO YOU.
When you are down to nothing ... God is up to something!
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