I put up a really great front. How many of us do this?
*raises hand*
That said, I'm a very honest person and the "Becka" that other posters have been reading about is the real me, as real as I am in the real world.
Of course, we all have our fronts, our insecurities, our problems, our worries. I'm a very shy person, it's very hard for me to make new friends and interact sometimes, so when I moved back to college in September and was faced with the prospect of three new roommates that I'd never met before, I was terrified. Especially after what happened with my last roommate - my last boyfriend cheated on me with her and I was deathly afraid that that would happen again, even though my current relationship is long distance. Talk about paranoid. But I sucked it up and pretended that I wasn't nervous at all. I was happy, helpful, polite, everything I am with people that I know well, and my roommates still don't know how shy I am.
Nobody knows about the things that worry me. Most people wouldn't guess that I have a lot of very lonely nights when I cry myself to sleep. That's part of who I am - I like to keep my private life private. Sure, I have a life that I share with those around me, I hang out with friends and interact and do all of the things that everyone else does, but I also have a private side that I like to keep to myself. Could you call that putting up a front?? Sure, I guess so, I hide a lot of things from those around me, but not everything.
Plus, I'm 20 years old, I'm still trying to figure out who I am. Sometimes I do something new and it completely shocks everyone around me. You should've seen the look on my mother's face last May when I told her that I had a 27-year-old man flying in from the United States for two weeks to meet me and spend some time with me and maybe start dating me. She looked at me like I was nuts, it was so out of character for me, I never do anything like that, I usually only do what's expected of me. That's the thing, as I learn who I am, I find myself doing more things that just don't seem like something I'd usually do, like dating an older man who lives really far away. Sure, it's not what "Becka" usually does, but Becka is still defining herself and growing up.
Does that sound reasonable??
-Becka :)