Elder admits to porn problem

by doinmypart 59 Replies latest jw friends

  • doinmypart
    doinmypart

    I posted a week or two ago that I would stop attending meetings and being an elder. I decided to wait on this after we received the June 7th BOE letter. I was interested in getting more information from other friends & family at Bethel. They wouldn't share with me if they knew I was on the outs. I'm still waiting on that, but in the meantime something happened after the meeting Sunday.

    One of the elders, Brother So-and-so, called for a BOE meeting after the WT lesson. We met in the library and the PO asks Brother So-and-so what's up, why the meeting? Brother So-and-so was all nervous acting, shifting around...he hands his Pay Attn. book to the PO and tells everyone he no longer qualifies to serve because he has a problem with porn. We sat there for a few seconds, completely floored by this. I was shocked that he would tell a room full of men something like this. He told us that he had been viewing porn repeatedly over the last few years and paying for topless dancers. He told us he felt bad because of all the information that had been written lately, and the June 7th BOE letter was the final straw for him, he had to confess since it was bothering his conscience.

    Some on our BOE are a tough bunch. Because this elder admitted there was some manipulation of reproductive ------ by dancer on several occasions, he might have to be DF and his wife has grounds for divorce. The judicial committee hasn't even met with him yet and they're already speculating on DF & divorce...so much for compassion. No concern for him, his wife, or children.

    It is hard for me to believe that some of these elders seemed to almost enjoy having the prospect of dealing with such a "problem" and "cleaning up" Jehovah's organization. After Brother So-and-so was dismissed the elders were talking about how the Slave is really taking care of us in these last days, Satan is so busy today, and on & on. I actually felt a little sick. It is getting harder for me to believe grown people can act this way. They are so disconnected from reality.

  • IP_SEC
    IP_SEC

    I have a feeling the society may lose a lot of elders and ms over this whole thing. domino effect. the remaining men will be overwhelmed with so much work they will break too.

  • IP_SEC
    IP_SEC

    PS. Doin you should use this as an op to come out of the "closet" It would be a cool double whammy. An apostate and pervert on the same body.

  • voltaire
    voltaire

    I feel sorry for the guy. I was an elder and remember feeling guilty about "wrong" desires and thoughts. They're going to make it impossible to be an elder soon.
    The only ones left qualifying will be the real hard asses who have no sympathy for anyone.

  • purplesofa
    purplesofa

    this is what i feel bad about this situation.

    Confession should not have to be given to the elders........it is between him and his god and conscience.

    I don't think he needed to give an explanation as to his stepping down.

    Cripes, they are so nosey. There is nothing sacred.

    purps

  • luna2
    luna2
    Doin you should use this as an op to come out of the "closet" It would be a cool double whammy. An apostate and pervert on the same body.

    LMAO! You're a funny man, IP. It would be kinda cool to give them another shock so soon...especially cuz they seem to enjoy disciplining this poor porn slave a little too much.

  • candidlynuts
    candidlynuts

    i'm trying to imagine one of my old elders getting a lap dance.....its a bad bad image lol.

  • Warlock
    Warlock

    When I was an m.s. and my hours got too low, at least the brother said "Warlock, how can we help you?".

    Warlock

  • Dismembered
    Dismembered

    Greetings doinmypart,

    I've said it before, but now it bears repeating. Whenever a judical meeting is formed because of sex, is the one thing that will cause those idiots to leave their supper on the table, and attend faster than a speeding bullit. All the while wishing they'd have purchased some of Gumbys polish.

    Dismembered

  • Mary
    Mary
    It is hard for me to believe that some of these elders seemed to almost enjoy having the prospect of dealing with such a "problem" and "cleaning up" Jehovah's organization.

    It's not hard at all for me to believe it. Some people have a very bizarre attitude towards anything remotely to do with sex and think that unless it's for purposes of pro-creation, it's bad. Then you've got people who like to pretend that they think sex is evil, but secretly enjoy listening to all the dirty details or viewing the human body when no one else is looking. I can give you a good example: one of the elders in my old Hall let everyone know that he wasn't going to go see Titanic because he heard there was a nude scene in it (some people can't tell the difference between what's porn and what's not), yet a brother in the Hall who worked with this elder told me the elder had a locker full of porno magazines at work that he viewed on a regular basis.

    "...After Brother So-and-so was dismissed the elders were talking about how the Slave is really taking care of us in these last days, Satan is so busy today, and on & on....."

    Ya, I'm sure it's Satan's main mission in life to try and get elders to look at pictures of naked women. Hmmm.....don't recall reading that in the Book of Revelation.....

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