Stumbled upon this site after watching the second Silent lambs story on the ozzie Sunday program. This is the site I have been looking for. I have some shit to get off my chest so forgive my rant if I go over some old worn-out ground. Some background first. My GF and I have been together for just over 3 years. We still both live with our parents as we are not financial enough to get our own place. I am not religious at all (as long as humans have anything to do with it religion is flawed IMO). Her oldies are JWs and although she has never been baptised it has still had a profound effect on her. To make it easy to reply I'll point form my questions.
1. Paranoia(sp). Are JW's generally paranoid? I think I know the answer but I'll give some examples. My GF likes to make broad sweeping generalisations such as: Police, pollies, journos, are ALL corrupt. This may not seem that odd but it is how she says it. I've heard her mum say similar things.
2. Materialism. This is something that I have a real problem with. IF armageddon(sp) is coming why then do they (from what I've seen) buy Prestige cars, big houses, large screen TV's. My GFs parents wanted a second car so what did they buy? Not the standard sedan of course not, they bought the V8 Exec. model. I have seen other JW houses cars etc and I can find no other word for it but GREED.
3. Us/them. Why do they denounce the outside world but are OK deriving an income, accessing welfare/health system, etc. If anything wordly is demonic shouldn't they be living more like the amish.
4. Mental Health. My GF mum had a nervous breakdown 20 or so years ago. I asked my GF if her mum got counselling she said no and alluded that was frowned upon in the church. There is a history of depression in the family. My girlfriend has been depressed on and off for nearly 10 years (diagnosed, since day dot if you ask me) and she never got counselling. My theory is that there is a history of depression in the church. Can anyone add to this? What about the suicide rate, does anyone have any figures. All the people I've met seem very stifled and Borg (Best. Term. Ever) like.
5. Sex. My GF wasn't a virgin when she met me. Even though she has had sex she still feels guilty for feeling horny and NEVER masturbates. She told me it doesn't do anything for her so can't be bothered. However a few questions later I got to the root of the cause. If she gets the urge to 'pat the pussy' she feels incredibly dirty and it stops. So as you can tell her libido is quite low.
6. The role of women. There is an academic here in Oz that was DFed for speaking out about womens rights in the WTS but I didn't hear specifics. I know the woman has to be 'submissive' to her husband but how submissive?
7. End of Days (not the shithouse Arnie flick). If its all over soon (when exactly soon is a bit general) why: have kids, have a life, even bother.
8. Sport and dangerous shit. I have been led to believe that JW's are discouraged from persuing activities just for the thrill or dangerous stuff. What about pro sport? Aren't the Williams sisters JW's. I know JW's who own race cars, go skiing, rock climbing, sailing, ride motorbikes.
9. Disfellowed members. My GF's cousin was DFed I understand what normally happens but he attended his sisters wedding (not the reception though), works for his dad, sees his grandparents and my GF's mum still talks to him. Shouldn't they be brushing him off? Can't that get them DFed for talking to him.
There are other things too like how my GF's parents think it's OK to go into her room at any time for any reason to look for anything, anywhere. Fucked up I hear you say. More fucked up when I say she is 25. She reasons this by saying she has nothing to hide and if she said something they might think she had something to hide. I say so fucking what. At her age they should have some respect for her own personal space.
There it is my first post. Looking forward to the response.
Sorry about the grammar.