Non-Witness Lesbian affair with lesbian JW

Siraphina

I'm an openly gay woman who's fallen in love with another closeted lesbian woman who's a JW. I feel it was love at first sight because we're so intensely attracted to each other and it's well beyond the sex, which of course, is wonderful. It's guilt-free for me, but my poor love is painfully guilt-ridden yet cannot control her desires which are natural within her. Is it possible for us to live together this way without her losing her family and friends, e.g., being shunned. We love each other very much and she's such a good and kind soul. To see her be punished for the way she was born would kill me. Any advice? My heart is heavy and I don't know where to turn.

Satanus

You have come to the right place for advice and ideas. This may be the same as any other romance between jw and a nonjw. Jw's can drive the nonjw crazy because of their moralistic programming and also their doctrine about not supposing to date nonjws.

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parakeet

***My heart is heavy and I don't know where to turn.***

If you're not a troll and this is a serious request, you should already know the answer from your partner. Any JW can tell you that gay relationships are not tolerated by JWs/WTS.

TresHappy

Homosexuality is not tolerated in the JW faith; all the gay people I knew in the WT are out and living their own lives separate from the JW's - it's just that way.

mama1119

She will most definitely be punished. They have zero tolerance, first of all for gay people, and second, for unmarried sex of any kind, and third for JW dating non JW. She will be shunned. Its up to her if she can handle it or not. It depends on how embedded she is. I hope you find resolve.

delilah

Welcome, Siraphina. Unfortunately, your friend will be cast out, and shunned. Homosexuality is NOT tolerated within the confines of the organization. Best of luck to you both.

Emma

Is she open to looking at the watchtower society and whether or not it has god's backing? If she learned the truth about the organization it might be easier to make the separation.

She will most likely loose her family and all of her friends. It's happened to most of us who have left for any reason. It's a terrible loss but worth living your own life in truth. There are organizations for gay ex-witnesses; I'm sure someone will post the information soon.

Devilsnok

Her best course of action if she is serious about you is to fade away and become inactive. In this situation you will have to move town because if anything gets back to the hall the elders will be after her and after all the gory details in order to disfellowship her. After a few years of fading the elders might just give up on her and decide not to take any action against her. That will leave friends and family the choice in associating with her. However many may see her homosexuality and her fade as a reason "to make a stand" and cut her off.

What you have to contend with will be a very torn girlfriend, someone who's heart belongs to both you and Jehovah and until she makes a stand and chooses one life style over the other she will never be happy.

I hope if you do move town together and fade that after a while her witness family and friends will accept her for who and what she is and accept that you can't help who you fall in love with.

drew sagan

The best thing for her to do in a situation like this would be to simply fade away from the organization. If she simply showed herself to be 'spiritualy weak' then they more than likely would leave her alone. Even if you lived togeather, it really wouldn't mean anything other than she has a 'worldy' room mate, which is just considered a sign of spiritual weakness, but you can't get df'd for it unless you actually provide all of the details to the local elders. Helping her let go of the WTS is the main point for any JW. They have to see that the 'faithful slave' has not been so faithful. The only way to start to help any JW is to show them how their organization is not telling the truth.

hambeak

I can speak from experience, your friend will be filled with guilt and loathing because of who she is, as others on this thread have very correctly stated the jw's have zero tolerance for gay folks. Her only hope is to fade away and leave the area if she wants any relationship with her family if they are active jw's. If you move in together and you are a known homosexual she will be df'd. My very best wishes for you both.

Ham

Non-Witness Lesbian affair with lesbian JW

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