Greetings Larc,
You said:
:Now, Julie, you just can't resist insulting people can you.
Sure I can, I resist doing so quite often.
:My depth of ignorance as you call it is based on the ideas of Albert Ellis, who was voted by his professional peers as being the third most influential Clinical Psychologist in the history of the field. His method of therapy was a major breakthough at a time when it became clear the Freud's method of treatment was very ineffective, per a classic study by Hans Eyzenck, a British Psychologist.
Well Larc *pretending to be impressed with name-dropping*, I am quite sure that this "most influential Clinical Psychologist" would never have applied such an incredibly insensitive approach to a huge, broad group of people, suffering from various issues at various depths, including the one you addressed. Would the good doctor have been so flippant if he'd known he were addressing some who are severly emotionally/pschologically damaged (have you caught any of the suicide talk lately??)? I would sure like to think not.
No Larc, you came in here with your insensitive and broad generalization of an admonishment for those suffering from "low self-esteem", you use an extremely dimsissive tone regarding any childhood trauma they may have suffered (until called on that), you show no sympathy or acknowledgement of the fact that perhaps persons may not even be aware of this or other issues. You seem to project the attitutude that all people are aware of their situations, their mental state and their options (much less their own power to excersize such options) and go on to practically assert that they would just rather wallow in their sickness and misery, willingly and knowingly. I would like to think your good doctor would apply this sort of treatment in specific cases, like only where it applies. I highly doubt he would recommend such an approach to what may amount to a great many of people here that are nowhere near ready for such end-of-the-line therapy. Such things could only reasonably be said to the person who has come to realize what their problems are and how they came to be. How many here do you think that applies to? How many here do you think it does not apply to?
Even your "love yourself, it's the right thing to do" (paraphrased) comment, people who have had lifetime self-esteem problems cannot just turn self love on like a switch. They have to earn such regard from/for themselves just as we do from each other as humans. They need to prove to themselves they are worthy of such. Some guy telling them so just will not make that happen.
Perhaps it was just an ignorance of application of an established method then?
Then you suggest a possible diagnosis for me:
:Julie, do you have anger management issues to deal with??
ROFL!!!! Well if I did I can tell you that you would definitely not be the therapist for me!!
No but seriously, I do have a few issues I feel passsionately about. One would be how ignorant *so many* (*so many* meaning the population in general larc, not directed at you) are of how incredibly important those formative years of children are and how deep the damage goes for those who suffer much. Your post with its Get-over-it-you-crybaby tone was absurd and only helps to fuel such misconceptions that many already hold. Just thought I'd share with you my reasoning. I'll try to keep my feelings out of it next time--so as not to insult you or prompt unsolicited diagnosis from you, and maybe you could consider the method of "therapy" you apply here a bit more carefully (*hint* think "sensitivity").
Regards,
Julie