Hi,
You don't ever want to go to a KH ever again right? Then you wouldn't want your child to feel guilty about not going door to door etc. when he/she is a little older.
SO....... when your child begins to grow, talk and become socially integrated with the neighborhood children AND begins to celebrate birthdays etc. he/she would be much better off spending the majority of the time with your ex-girlfriend's family, grandparents, uncles so on.
They will hopefully give your child a more balanced, tolerant and less judgemental home atmosphere in wich to grow. BY ALL MEANS be active in your child's upbringing.
Unconditional love will not be found within the JW members, unfortunately.
But YOU know better. Your child will need you to provide that unconditional love come what may.
Even when your child goes to college--YOUR PRESENCE will always carry the most weight.
You can always take your child to your side of the family for visits on non-holidays to prevent arguments. It will more than likely be an awkward time. But if your visits become causes of arguments over doctrinal matters, then you might have to make them short and sweet.
By showing respect to your parents when you are there, your child will grow to love them even if their set of beliefs never become his/her set of beliefs.
And as far as you being DF...... as long as you don't agree to meet with the judicial committee, they can only base their "judgement" on hearsay. And if they DF you on non-solid grounds then
hopefully your parents will see that for what it is -- and speak to you anyway.
Best wishes and CONGRATULATIONS!
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