I have a mother who is completely and absolutely toxic. she never misses a meeting and reads her bible and literature all the time. Put to the test, however, she has no faith. It is really strange, why does she do all of this if she doesn't believe it? she has destroyed her family and no-one wants to be near her. Everybody, my three older brothers, myself, grandchildren, daughters-in-law give her a wide berth.
She sits alone now, at 89, festering in her misery and lonliness. I've tried to tell her that you cannot sow thistles and expect to reap strawberries, but she doesn't hear. "after all I have done for you" isa common refrain. Yes, done for us, manipulated, lied when it suits her, control freak, and no love at all. She did nothing but run my father down, he was a victim of verbal and emotional abuse to his dying day. To this day, our family is un-loving and selfish and unfortunately it is because of the example we had at home. I've survived her but I belive she has a lot to answer for.