Duh, I'm sorry, I'm sick and sleep-deprived, and read it as telling my sister how I felt. I always tell people in that situation, just keeping it brief and calm, and that really is quite an effective tool, which leads to them asking more questions, and getting a good overall glimpse into the ugly side of the religion that they haven't seen. I'm off to crawl under a rock now. Or maybe get some caffeine to jolt me into making sense.
Ilovebirthdays
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I'm making an anniversary gift & it makes me sad
by homeschool init's my sister's 10th anniversary this friday, and i got all gung ho with making a cd with baby pics through wedding day for both she and her husband.
but as i was getting finished making it, a flood of memories came back as to how i was not only not in my big sister's wedding, but i was barely even invited because i was having jw doubts at the time.
grrrrrrr, kinda left me in a sad mood..... i get so angry at the borg for making both my sisters exclude me from their weddings .
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I'm making an anniversary gift & it makes me sad
by homeschool init's my sister's 10th anniversary this friday, and i got all gung ho with making a cd with baby pics through wedding day for both she and her husband.
but as i was getting finished making it, a flood of memories came back as to how i was not only not in my big sister's wedding, but i was barely even invited because i was having jw doubts at the time.
grrrrrrr, kinda left me in a sad mood..... i get so angry at the borg for making both my sisters exclude me from their weddings .
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Ilovebirthdays
Glad you're feeling better today, homeschool.
No, I didn't tell her, jamiebowers. Right after they got married they moved away to where the need was greater. I am guessing I will never talk to her again. I've only talked to her twice since I left 11 years ago, and only because I ran into her while out and about. She has never met my children, who are now 3 and 5. TBH, it would be like talking to a brick wall anyway. I have used my family situation as an effective "witness" about the witnesses to several people who don't know that much about the religion, and view it as a group of nice, but harmlessly misguided people, and I know it has given them a different view.
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I'm making an anniversary gift & it makes me sad
by homeschool init's my sister's 10th anniversary this friday, and i got all gung ho with making a cd with baby pics through wedding day for both she and her husband.
but as i was getting finished making it, a flood of memories came back as to how i was not only not in my big sister's wedding, but i was barely even invited because i was having jw doubts at the time.
grrrrrrr, kinda left me in a sad mood..... i get so angry at the borg for making both my sisters exclude me from their weddings .
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Ilovebirthdays
I know how you feel. My sister just got married, and I wasn't invited, like I figured, and was dealing with it just fine until I ran into a worldly ex-teacher of hers who was at her wedding and wanted to know why I wasn't.
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Your Best Excuse(s) To Weasel Out Of Going Door To Door
by Yizuman inso what did you do to get out of this door to door from time to time as a dub?.
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Ilovebirthdays
I sprained my ankle multiple times on purpose. I'm surprised nobody figured it out, it was that many times. (I can't say I advise this route, as I'm paying the price by always having an ankle that hurts at a relatively young age.)
I was also fortunate(?) enough to have SVT, a condidtion in which your heart beats hundreds of times a minute and makes you pass out. I pretended to have episodes of that way more than I actually had that happen. I was smart enough to make it to a few doors before having an "episode" so as not to look like I was trying to get out of FS.
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JW School K-12 I went
by outofservice inthe jw academy post brought back my memories of going to a school run by jw's in the late 70's in hollywood fla. i went for 4 and 5 th grade.
i t was quite odd and i do believe i have suppressed most of my memories of it.
has anybody else ever heard of such a thing ?
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Ilovebirthdays
I'm so glad none of those existed when I was growning up in my area. Homeschooling was a big deal, and I was VERY fortunate in the fact that my father was "unable" (read too lazy) to work, and my mom had to work full-time, so I got sent to a public school. Almost everyone else in the hall was homeschooled, i.e. drug out in service every day. I know one of the homeschoolers was fired from a cashier job for not being able to make basic change, and I'm guessing the others aren't doing much better.
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My story in the Monticello Times
by Shepherd Book ini took the advice of some here and "went to the press".
here's the resulting article: http://www.monticellotimes.com/articles/2009/04/09/community/879zimmerman.txt.
i think it turned out rather well..
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Ilovebirthdays
What a great article. I think articles that are well-written and balanced like that make the most impact with people who don't know what JW's are about. Good for you for sharing!
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What Were Your Consequences For Leaving The "Truth"???
by minimus inwas it as bad as everyone says, that if you leave the organization, you'll go back to the world, get into trouble and suffer?.
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Ilovebirthdays
I lost :
Family
"Friends"
Ulcers
Social Phobia
Depression
I gained:
A wonderful, loving husband that I am not ashamed to announce is mine
2 happy, healthy children that will get to experience sports, dances, college, etc
In-laws that do everything they can to give my children and I love, attention, support and holidays.
Friends who are there for me all the time, not just if I do what they say.
Happiness
Birthdays (Yes, I love them as much as my name indicates)
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So what happened in 1995?
by RaraAvis ini keep reading about new light or some big change in 1995. i left in 92, so what is everyone referring to?.
ra.
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Ilovebirthdays
This whole topic amuses me, because I was still a JW in 95, and was not even in fade mode. I heard 1914 was no longer 1914, but thought that it had happened after I left in 1998. It just makes me realize how adept I was at tuning everything out. I guess after a lifetime of doing it, you become a pro.
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Ilovebirthdays
Born in
Baptized, oh embarrassing, either 13 or 14.
Gave myself my first ever birthday present by leaving everything behind 11 years ago on my 25th birthday.
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As a JW youth, were you rejected by your peers and left out of social activities?
by truthseeker ini'd be interested to know your experiences if this applies to you.. i was in touch with an old friend and we got to talking about why it is that jws don't reach out to their inactive friends.. this friend commented that "the reason why no one has reached out to you is because most jws are required to display friendship, not because they like you but because they are told to.".
in my old congregation, there were many "young ones"; dubs between the ages of 15 and 29. a couple of them showed interest in me but it never lasted, usually because others in the congregation would, in so many words, tell them i was bad association.. i did not fit in with the congregation i grew up in - and my peers let me know that.
they ignored me as often as they could at the kingdom hall.
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Ilovebirthdays
I was always in with everyone in the hall around my age. However, I'm every bit sure that it had something to do with my family holding many of the Elder and MS positions within the hall, and basically being the what I called "reigning dynasty" of the congregation. There never was that much going on, everyone had pretty strict parents, and there really weren't parties, and what few get-togethers there were were for everyone in the hall, pretty much summer congregation picnics. Once there was an elder who took all of us teens to a laser light show. My parents went, and I'm sure that was the reason he never organized an outing just for teens again.
BUT, when it came time to go to Circuit and District assemblies, it was very clear that our hall were the obvious pariahs of the assemblies. I do believe that all the other halls looked at us as the dorks and nerds and we never did much with other halls at all. Even if we would have been invited, I doubt very much we would have been allowed to go.